Ghiagirl I'm so sorry to hear of the trials that you and your husband are going thru. I admire your strength to do the right thing for your child.
Sick to your stomach? Absolutely!
I'm not a JW, but my brother and his family are; and I worry about his grandchildren now and how they won't have a chance at a productive life. Just all waiting for God's judgement. What an awful existence.
You MUST do something to change that course and you have. I'm so sorry that it comes with these conditions, but you are doing what is true and right imho.