I am so so sorry Lady Lee that you are being put through this, it's like being put through the whole ordeal all over again I know because every time this subject comes up I relive my past.
My father had been abusing my sister he had a bullying violent nature but could also seem ok and even kindly at other times my mother always did what he asked and was afraid of him. When my other sister wanted to get married he went on a terrifying rampage and threaten to kill her. I was six a the time so you can imagine the terror and shock to a young child, we had to escape and run to a friends house who called the police. But my mother didn't press charges in those days they overlooked domestic violence anyway and turned a blind eye.
My father left and my mother carried on going to meetings then a few years later he tried to come back, the elders encouraged this and the rest of my growing up was a complete misery. My sister had told my mother about the abuse and she just told her to get on with it and brushed it under the carpet. The attitude of the elders was it doesn't matter what your husband is like he is your husband you have to have him back they put the guilts on her.
My sister never forgave my mother for this although she was always good to her. She told me once that she couldn't understand why she never took us all away from him. She said she would never have let her children go through that and would have moved heaven and earth to
get her children away. She is a lovely mother herself and I know she meant it.
I never had any counselling for any of the things that ever happened and I have just had to find a way to deal with it myself. I have not told the whole story there is more. Thank you Lady Lee for being here for people like us even though it means many times reliving what you went through.
Hugs and Love RosePetal
