will be my first memorial inactive and i plan on skipping out. Already the so called "innocent text messages" have been rolling in from the elder's wives that want to suddenly get up for lunch and catchup after 2 months of no contact.
I'm no dummy.
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Actively Fading and The Memorial
by All for show inthose of you fading- with the memorial approaching are you going to appease family?
not going and making up an excuse?
acting like your going but not really?.
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Saturday Morning Vibes
by freemindfade inits saturday morning here on the east coast of america.
i haven't been out in service in probably getting close to two years.
i wake up every saturday extremely happy and thankful im not getting up to go f-ck up my morning and my neighbors morning, not today, not ever again.
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LHG im sure eventually one of his relatives will locate us and when they come knocking it will be ignored. One of his family members has already asked us for our new address seeing how they went by our old place and saw it empty. I acted like I didn't know it yet. I wont be coughing up any info for them to take back to their elders so as to have the whole congregation come visit and pester us about attending the memorial. No thanks. :) -
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Saturday Morning Vibes
by freemindfade inits saturday morning here on the east coast of america.
i haven't been out in service in probably getting close to two years.
i wake up every saturday extremely happy and thankful im not getting up to go f-ck up my morning and my neighbors morning, not today, not ever again.
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Cuddled up right now in bed with my boo while posting here. We moved to a new place without telling anyone so its nice to not hear the sound of nosy ass jws and relatives ringing my doorbell to guilt my husband into why he's not in service or to be serenaded against my will with their love bombing tactics to try to re-activate me into the cult.
Yes cheers my friend FMF nothing like having your Saturday's to yourself.
Enjoy man! ✌
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Got in a bad wreck.....uuugh
by brandnew injust happy to be alive....can barely move ☺.. a girl who just got her license , and a new suv....thought it might be cool to pass the person in front of her....at a curve......on a two way road!!!!!😠😠😠.
very mad puppy.
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From one fellow biker to another, feel better pup. Sorry about the rashing you got yesterday. Rest them bonez and get to feeling better soon!!
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Do you still believe in God?
by FormerlySandL ini never thought i would admit it, but i don't.
i might superstitiously have some kind of doubt but digging a bit deeper in my heart i really don't believe in god.
as a human i could never just sit and watch people be tortured, live years of abuse, suffer from illness and disabilities and all the other awful things people have to endure day after day without doing something about it.
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For me I fight the thought that god doesn't exist. I spent my entire life worshipping jehovah and now because im no longer a witness I dont automatically come to the conclusion that he doesnt exist. I personally feel like ive felt his presence throughout many stages in my life so im not quick to give up on him but I will say that there are things that happen in the world today that make me question why he wont do anything about it.
If it makes sense at all I would say that im on the fence right now with my belief in Jehovah.
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So , how "worldly" did you get?
by greenhornet ini even hate to use that word worldly tm.. any way i'm probably the worst.. 1 when the jw s come to my door i say i'm not interested .
2 i have gone to many churches and volunteered.. 3 i shredded all my jw books and magazines out in the woods.. 4 had the mormon elders over and studied with them.. 5 tried pot (its legal here).
6 open carry my fire arm every where (legal here also).
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I curse occasionally
I Hate all religion and want nothing to do with any of it whereas before when i was a jw I would sympathize with those belonging to different religions.
I havent read the bible since last july.
I only pray at meal time.
Im umsure of any hope after death.
Im contemplating peircing my nose and getting my first tattoo next month
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may need some help soon
by Missanna inok so i send my father a letter telling him several reasons i do not believe the witnesses are jehovah's organization.i also told my father at the end of the letter that i was setting some boundaries once and for all.
that i would not be emotionally blackmailed or verbally abused anymore that if he wanted to talk to me as a father then i welcome that and if he can't do that then i do not wish to comunicate with him.
i sent it about a week ago and was waiting for all hell to break loose but nothing happend.
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Fading tactic that worked well for me
by traveb inif you read some of my past posts you’ll know that i’ve successfully faded while being able to keep contact with my immediate family, who are still very devout jws.
when i did finally completely stop attending meetings, my family, and especially my parents (elder father and pioneer mom), were of course very interested to know the reasons why.
at first i deflected their questions, stating that i had personal reasons and did not want to explain myself.
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Traveb this is the same approach I have taken with both my family and previous jw associates and I agree wholeheartedly that it works well.
I still have the occasional love bombing moments from a few jws that still contact me trying to appeal to my emotional side but I never budge to any of their attempts to get me to open up to my reasons for not attending. I keep things chipper and friendly and off that subject and it amazes me how puzzled they get when they see that im so content and happy not being at meetings. Its like they almost expect you to be depressed and down.
Uhm no. im the happiest ive ever been. Glad to hear you are having the same result. Thx for sharing your story
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Should I get babtized?
by BlackWolf ini know this sounds like a ridiculous question but i was talking with my mom in the car today and of course we got on the topic of getting babtized again.
she told me that jehovah holds me accountable for my sins regardless of wether i am babtized or not so i have no reason to be holding back because it won't change anything.
my parents are the type of super strict jw who will shun you just for not being a witness.
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Dude save yourself the grief. Your parents are emotionally blackmailing you to do what they want you to do. Baptism to please them will only create more grief and hardship for you later down the line since you already know ttatt.
Avoid the dunking!! Turn 18 and move out
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I lied to the elders
by atacrossroads ini stopped attending meetings all together in january 2015. before that my attendance was irregular at best.
my husband followed suit a few months ago after months of research, agony, and indecision on his part.
from the very beginning i laid low and did not share with anyone what i found out about the witnesses because i did not want to be df'd.
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Ata my heart goes out to you.
If the elders came to your door so eager for your admission, I wouldn't be surprised if they just go ahead an announce you df in absentia without your consent. It seems like sadly both sides of your family are trying to do just that.
Please prepare yourself for anything that may come out of this. Hopefully they just back off for good and let it ride.
I really like how u handled yourself. I know saying that is probably pulling on your heart strings since its your mom on the other side of the accusation but remember like everyone else has said YOU OWE THEM NOTHING.
Dont give them the pleasure of disfellowshipping you with ease. You are bothering nobody they are bothering YOU.
Stick to your fade.
Sending many hugs to you. Hang in there hun!
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