Dub I just want to offer my sincere condolences for what you are going through right now. I'm sorry your father is not doing well.
I am glad that you were at least afforded the opportunity to speak to him and relay your love.
I do hope your mom and family see the ridiculousness behind the whole shunning matter and loosen up on their stance. Maybe by what they have done already by removing all the jw's so you could visit your father is a sign that they could be at least be seeing the stupidity of leaving you out of family matters.
You guys are in my thoughts and prayers during this time. Keep strong man. HUGS!!!
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