Well... the only experience that I may have to add to this thread was when I was still married to the good lil' J-Dub wifey.
Her brothers' wife got DF'ed - dunno know why - don't care.
We were in Office Depot one fine Saturday morning when the DF'ed gal shows up to use the copier (or somesuch).
Well the wifey goes into 'avoidance mode', and high-tails it outta there.
I was right behind her - as an automatic reaction - and then when I thought about it - I stopped. I told the wifey - "I'm going back inside to talk to Deb."
I went back in and greeted her, and chatted with her for a bit. I told her that I don't play by their rules.
She thanked me... but unfortunately... she was going to try to 'get back in'... and get re-instated. *rolls eyes*
Anyway... I felt better about not abiding by some silly rules that don't make sense - if you think about it.
I mean... they'd talk to an ax-murderer - no problem! But their own DF'ed sister-in-law? No way! *rolls eyes - yet again*
I learnt long ago to not 'play' by their rules.
Regards,
Jim TX