I used the phrase "I am not going to meetings". I did not say I'm not going to associate. Elders & family did probe to find out if there was a reason why and see if there was a way to categorise it as a disassociation. I was very positive, talked about the good work they had done and reassured them I'd talk to them if needed. I also went to the memorial soon after and was very positive there.
I had preceeded this with a carefully planned long fade, reducing activity, attendance at meetings and had no JW friends in the congregation - effectively showing I was weak.
Having spent 3 decades putting up with all kinds of rubbish, I was fine about leaving in a way where I could still have contact with my family. I didn't need to vent. For me it was the right decision.
They did try and hound but they couldn't get past the barrier of me thanking them. I moved to another area and that ended the contact.
How do family treat me now? It has taken a few years but they know that I'm better than anyone they know in the congregation (don't mean to boast). They certainly don't want to risk losing contact with me so they don't even preach to me :-)
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