I did a long slow fade. I needed to become independent. I started from a point of having no qualifications and living at home.
I went to college while working full time which meant I missed some meetings. I also couldn't do much FS. I withdrew socially from people at the KH and didn't talk much before or after the meetings. They assumed I was depressed and over the years newer ones thought I was weak. I worked on my career where I was very successful and became financially independent from my family.
I had built up friends at work so when the day came to tell my parents I wasn't going to meetings any more, they and no-one else had any power over me. I wasn't hounded too much either especially as just before I left I'd done some good deeds for the elderly at the kh - the elders couldn't work it out but there appeared to be no malice in my leaving.
My reasons for a slow fade were... getting my life set up. I wanted to minimise the pain for my parents by gradually reducing how active I was so it would be less of a surprise for them. There were other reasons too which I may talk about one day.
I didn't look on the internet about JW's until I found JWN less than a year ago. It has confirmed everything I thought and so much more. With the advice of JWN I would have left earlier and been far more confident about leaving.
I am on good terms with some of my family - mission accomplished.
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