Posts by freeflyingfaerie

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I love gays :)

by freeflyingfaerie in

some of my favorite people are~.

after leaving the religion, my lesbian couple friends were the most compassionate people, and i will always love them!.

i am heterosexual, but find gays to be absolutely fabulous!!.

~Moving forward..searching for a good therapist~

by freeflyingfaerie in

alright, that's it!

after writing this, i am on a serious search for a good therapist~.

i've been coming here on and off for a little over a year now(wish i had found it sooner) ...for validation and clarity in my feelings about how hurtful the religion is...so i don't feel so alone about it, and so i don't feel like i am losing my mind~.

freeflyingfaerie

truthseekeriam~ thanks! I'll check search out. I made a few phonecalles today and I am given several sessions free covered by my work. I will ask the therapist if she can help me find anyone in the area who has experience with cults. I'm not expecting anything, really. I want to see, though. I just want to talk and get more out, and by someone who gets it. It's possible that I won't get much out of it, and end up right back here and have to share my story in detail, blood, and gore and all. Hopefully for everyone here, there will be a great therapist to hear me out.

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~Moving forward..searching for a good therapist~

by freeflyingfaerie in

alright, that's it!

after writing this, i am on a serious search for a good therapist~.

i've been coming here on and off for a little over a year now(wish i had found it sooner) ...for validation and clarity in my feelings about how hurtful the religion is...so i don't feel so alone about it, and so i don't feel like i am losing my mind~.

freeflyingfaerie

Thanks TotallyADD and doofdaddy~

moshe~ I don't quite understand your post. Are you implying that therapy is a luxury?

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I love gays :)

by freeflyingfaerie in

some of my favorite people are~.

after leaving the religion, my lesbian couple friends were the most compassionate people, and i will always love them!.

i am heterosexual, but find gays to be absolutely fabulous!!.

freeflyingfaerie

warmasasunned~ I am not labeling anyone, society does this for us already. For all we know, a gay person coined the term 'gay' for people who prefer same sex. Your next comment about them being human beings , mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, really goes along with what I said in my original post. I celebrate beautiful people, and some are gay, which is still, as a whole, not fully accepted. I'm sorry you don't get my writing. What shows up on this screen is so one-dimensional, typed with all its black-and-whiteness on little keys with letters on them. If I could, I would wrap my arms around anyone with a true heart and give them love, I'll never understand why life is so difficult and complicated.

ohiocowboy~ You are very welcome!! It's so good to see that you felt good, not bad about the expressions that I made. Sometimes it's difficult to make a compliment, because that very compliment can turn out to be perceived as an insult. But thank god(or whoever) you got what was meant!!

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~Moving forward..searching for a good therapist~

by freeflyingfaerie in

alright, that's it!

after writing this, i am on a serious search for a good therapist~.

i've been coming here on and off for a little over a year now(wish i had found it sooner) ...for validation and clarity in my feelings about how hurtful the religion is...so i don't feel so alone about it, and so i don't feel like i am losing my mind~.

freeflyingfaerie

Alright, that's it! After writing this, I am on a serious search for a good therapist~

I've been coming here on and off for a little over a year now(wish I had found it sooner) ...for validation and clarity in my feelings about how hurtful the religion is...so I don't feel so alone about it, and so I don't feel like I am losing my mind~

Reading others' experiences has helped tremendously! I love you all!

I started leaving the religion in my heart around three years ago(this after a lifetime in). It took about six months for me to completely wake up and walk out. January 2009 I went to my very last meeting. I was still freshly coming out of the fog, family and friends were hounding me, I didn't want to be a hypocrite, so I still met withe the elders, and let the public flogging begin.

Leaving was like jumping off a cliff and not knowing where you will land. All I knew is that I had to do it, I couldn't live a lie. I just had to walk out of there...and keep walking...

And that's what I've done these past few years. It has been quite an experience.

To help me understand it all and to heal, I have been reading. Combatting Cult Mind Control is priceless. Steven Hassan doesn't know it, but he was my therapist as I read that. Crisis of Conscience was eye-opening. I have read some other wonderful books about self-help, empowerment, and to satisfy my need for some connectedness, books about spirituality. I take from these what feels right. I feel like I've come a long way.

I do yoga and take care of my body~

My dance has been a form of therapy~

Writing helps to get out some of what needs to come out~

Being a mother to my beautiful daughters..thinking of what they need makes me find the strength to keep finding the positive and seize the day~

I've searched the 'meetup' site, and there are no groups for ex-jw's in the area..and I havent felt up to starting one.

Sometimes I will talk to people about the pain of leaving the religion, but I think it's too much for people and I dont want to be to heavy for them..so that is limited

I need help. I need a real person with me to work through some of the hurt and frustration I still have. I also need to talk about the divorce...and how even though I found the strength to leave an abusive(on different levels) 'man' ...even though I took action and left, I still feel a huge loss for myself and my daughters. It is not an easy thing to raise two little ones alone, while still healing from loss of all family and long-time friends. I am by no means desperate, but people do need moral support in life...everyone does. I am creating a new life for myself and my daughters. And I need to take this next step of therapy for the sake of our well-being~

I got myself this far, but I want to keep purging out the ache, the pain...until it doesn't hurt quite so bad. There are times when I feel so recovered, so clear and so strong. Then sometimes I feel so emotionally vulnerable, and angry and powerless because I can't single-handedly just bring down the dosh-garn religion once and for all....(especially after speaking with JW family...which I may just stop doing altogther because of the effect it has on me)

Someone needs to hear all this. Someone besides myself. A therapist sounds like just the right person.

I feel better already~

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Need your shunning experiences, written or on video

by jwfacts in

i have added a new page at http://www.jwfacts.com/watchtower/experiences/shunning-experiences.php with short experiences from people who have been shunned.

i would like more to add.

please feel free to post comments on how you are being treated and the affect it is having on their lives.

freeflyingfaerie

Yes. Very hurtful. Many times I was unable to spend any time with, or talk on the phone with(with a few isolated exceptions miraculously), my little sister , who has Down's Syndrome and cannot just stand up for herself to my family. My JW family is keeping us from each other.

And the usual fanatical shunning with the explaination that it is for them a preparation for my eventual death at armageddon. My family loves to throw the shock and horror death talk tactic alongside the "everybody misses you", and "YOU know what to do" to see us all again. They make sure to always have a condescending tone, as if my life is pointless and futile, and my opinions and individuality mean zero...unless I carry the brand JW.

It takes everything in me to not react to them like a crazed woman when they come onto me with that predictable mentality! I usually end up in tears after we have any conversation.

I'll see about getting something together for you. I'll see if I can put some of this into clear form.

I feel very passionately about this subject, it is absolutely an emotionally abusive tool!!!!!!

I have grown to Hate and Abhor the Jehovah's Witness Religion with all my broken heart. They have stolen my family, they have stolen some good friends, they have created a perfect nitemare for any honest, good-hearted person. The religion is perverse in its Lies and Manipulations.

I daydream about the fall of the religion~

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