yesterday evening my wife and i were invited to friends house for new year's eve.
we met them when i was a christian and we have kept in touch.
they had a few other friends there as well, including the new church pastor and his wife.
cofty~ Sometimes, do you feel like you're surrounded by idiots? (please don't answer that)
I'll add to the accolades, to say that you are gifted with an agile mind and use it to express yourself in a very clear and insightful way. Thanks for sharing your ideas~
young and shunned xjw singer/songwriter and wife interview.. "blessed feathers:nomadic and loving it" is featured story on national public radio.
(someone make it clickable?.
amazingly open about what happens if you don't follow the leader as a jw--yet without bitterness--this young man tells his story.
Thanks for sharing~
Beautiful...he freed himself...they are in love, makin music...and touring the gorgeous national parks...absolutely wonderful~
So happy for you, Kate
Happy New Year!
You seem very down-to-earth and friendly...great smiles!
Thai food is so delicious..great way to celebrate!
Best wishes on your journey on this new path~
ps~ I saw all the pics, I think, but saw none in the OP..
...maybe the gb ought to consider these, as they are a 'target'.. www.gq.com/style/blogs/the-gq-eye/2013/11/bulletproof-suit-garrison-bespoke.html.
...Maybe the GB ought to consider these, as they are a 'target'.
www.gq.com/style/blogs/the-gq-eye/2013/11/bulletproof-suit-garrison-bespoke.html
besides it being pseudoscience, what interests me about this is that even though it's something to do with the "qi" energy flowing in our bodies, that wasn't a problem for some members of my family or a special pioneer i knew.. new study exposes acupuncture as pseudoscience.
cofty~ does your chart imply that there are no therapeutic effects with aromatherapy or shiatsu?
Of course, one's expectations play into it, but haven't you ever felt more relaxed/energized/etc by inhaling certain aromas? Have you ever experienced relief of muscle tension with shiatsu ( which is simply Japanese for 'finger pressure') or some other form of acupressure/massage? Some people do get very involved in ideology and such with certain treatments, but it isn't fair to excuse them as complete nonsense. The effects of such treatments can be simply quite powerful/potent.
besides it being pseudoscience, what interests me about this is that even though it's something to do with the "qi" energy flowing in our bodies, that wasn't a problem for some members of my family or a special pioneer i knew.. new study exposes acupuncture as pseudoscience.
I'll consider myself a case study for my own experiments...
As far as acupuncture, there is some value to it. I found instant relief for one symptom, and absolutely none for another. And I wanted it to work both times. How acupuncture works, I don't really understand, but it can work sometimes.
Just because we don't understand how something works, doesn't mean it doesn't work. Just because people assign 'majical' names to something doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't work legitimately.
although i really hate the wt/jw shunning policy, which especially huts those who have been df'd, i find i am in a kind of way doing it to my jw family.. i do not include them in anything i do, in my own family gatherings, and i cannot be arsed to inform them of things going on in my family, or to even go and see them, unless really necessary.. this all adds up to a kind of "reverse shunning", and i do feel a twinge of guilt about it, but it is simply how things have become.. do you, fellow faders, find a similar thing happening ?.
Phizzy~ also, things may ebb and flow with you and your family. Things... emotions, thoughts change.
Personally, it has been hot and cold between me and my family since I left five yrs ago. There have been heated discussions...other times I would hug them or say 'I love you' and got nothing....times when they wouldn't make it possible for me to see my little sister...
then there were times that they would say 'I love you', 'we think about you'...send letters...call to check in on us...sometimes we would even laugh about things
..there were times that I would not allow my family to have contact with my daughters...didn't tell them we moved out-of-state...didn't answer phone calls...
then there were times that I would just spontaneously call them and had a short but calm conversation that felt warm and simple (even if emotions run deep inside)
Guess what I'm saying is that there is no natural way to be when dealing with the unnatural forces of shunning. You may find yourself trying different ways of being, to cope with the frustration and pain. Who knows how you may feel six months from now? Maybe you'll be more indifferent. Maybe things will calm down and you'll find a way to have a little bit of peaceful contact, leaving the door open on your end. Maybe you'll say something direct and make them think.
I feel you on the twinge of guilt about 'shunning'them back. It doesn't feel right, but it also feels like sometimes it's the only way...at least for some time. Sometimes it's best to create some distance from where the insanity is coming from. Who wants to feel like they're constantly being rejected? Especially when it's so unfair. It can mess with the psyche. Maybe when you feel more grounded in your life away from the insanity, you'll feel fine letting them back in your life...on your terms.
will the candle you light this christmas make a difference?
you know it won't.
will your prayers give warmth or shelter to those in need or will it be the goodness in your own heart and those around you that helps those in need?
this is a very lonely time of year for me i admit it.
i'm suppose to be going over my aunties house wednesday after work.
but going to christmas/holiday parties and get togethers, i still kinda feel out of place.. i really wish i grew up celebrating the holidays more.
Just a little weirder than normal
Happy Xmas and a Merry New Year!
