I never got baptized but was never out and out pressured either. Which is not to say there is no pressure, the whole culture and especially the special talks directed toward "young ones" is all about pressure to get baptized early before the world could get it's grubby little mitts on us.
I felt weird when I was the only one left of my friends not baptized, and my parents definately "encouraged" me to get baptized, but ultimately -- I think I always knew I didn't believe it 100%. At first I felt terriable about - there must be something wrong with me. Why didn't I get it, and why didn't I just "know" it was the "truth"...eventually I just never did it -- and I'm glad I didn't. I'm also in that weird gray area.
No one in my family shuns me, and I don't get hardcore shunned from anyone either - but you can see them stammer and stutter as they try to process exactly how to deal with me. I am definately "bad association" and thus have no contact with anyone in the congregations anymore.
It used to bug me - but not so much anymore. I've been out so long now, and my personality is night and day different. I get a little nostalgic sometimes and wonder how some people are -- but I don't really miss them. Mostly I think about how if they did decide to talk to me, we'd have nothing to talk about anyway.