@StAnn I didn't say I was surprised, I said the distressing part of it was I had that power over her to keep her in a cult. I too was a convert and at the time thought I was doing the best thing for my children. I hate the Borg with such passion you would not believe.
My daughter said she hated us back then because she was bullied terribly by elders kids and pioneers. We supported her as much as we could but what power had we got over these people, what was the point of ever saying anything to elders about their kids. If we had, our daughter would have been taken in the torture room and then accused of lying against their brats. I would never put her through that.
And yeah your right we do reap what we sow, I should have slapped them silly.
Time is a great healer and hopefully, one day, we can all say that they no longer affect us. (((((hugs))))) to you and yours.