Great job, Aussie! Just as important as your goal to keep him from being baptized a JW, you're developing a strong trust bond between you and your son. That will last no matter what else happens.
Tammy
well, some of you know that i have a 16 year old son who lives with his jw mother.
she has already mastered the art of guilt control on him.
i am most anxious that he not get baptized at all or at least unless he has really understood the whole truth, not just the watchtower truth.
Great job, Aussie! Just as important as your goal to keep him from being baptized a JW, you're developing a strong trust bond between you and your son. That will last no matter what else happens.
Tammy
with a full-time job, his responsibilities as a servant, endless door-to-door work, a young family and a house to renovate, fathers nervous energy found an outlet in his constant movement.
he only seemed to sit down to eat or study one of the many watchtower publications that now filled a whole bookcase.. do you have to do that?
why dont you sit down, youll wear the carpet out, mother complained, as he paced up and down the small room.. this was no ordinary carpet.
On the surface, this is seems like a very simple story, but it paints a very vivid picture of how ingrained this belief was in that little boy. Of just how much children trust their parents words.
Most of you who were born in might take this for granted, but for an outsider like me, it sheds a lot of light on just how much you had to overcome to be here.
Thanks for sharing.
Tammy
since i have woken up from the horrible wt nightmare 5 months ago, i have had a chance to reflect on things that have happened over 25 years.
one of the things i keep thinking about is householders in the field that would become furious upon seeing me and say rudely "get out of here and don't ever come back to my house again!".
it always struck me as such an awful thing to say.
Some people could care less about the religion of JW's. They don't like being disturbed again and again by something they don't want; same as no one likes to be disturbed by telemarketers.
Think about how rude people are to telemarketers.
Tammy
matthew 5:44 "but i say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,.
luke 6:35 "but love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return.
the most radical teaching attributed to jesus has implications if followed.. an invading hoarde of mongols would not be resisted.. a christian husband would not only allow his wife and daughters to be raped; he would be compelled to forgive the rapist, pray for him and offer.
As for loving your enemies, Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mohandas Gandhi, learned that it was often the case that we let long, critcal moments pass watching "our enemy" suffer need or the want of a kindness until the tipping point arrives and they explode--and then we feel justified to attack him. This is not to say that kindness is merely enlightened self interest but it is in keeping with Jesus' spirit of recognizing another's value, viewing them as your neighbor, rather than as a nobody.
Sort of like we've allowed the world to get to this point - the point where it has become almost impossible to live by Jesus' turn the other cheek/love enemy teachings?
And now that we have this mess that we as humankind are responsible for, we question and wonder why we can't live by the teachings of those we claim to follow?
Yeah... I can get behind that reasoning.
Tammy
mine is the yearner position.. .
fetus position - a whopping 41% of participants sleep in this curled-up manner.
women are twice as likely to rest like this and it is listed as the most common position.
Except for the log and the soldier, I sleep in all these positions. I also usually expose a leg.
Tammy
take a look at page nine of the new june 15th wt.
at first glance, it appears to be a standard wt article extolling the safety and happiness of jw's in the kh.. "many who today are members of the christian congregation can tell you that before learning of and adopting jehovah's righteous standards, they lived without moral restrain.
yet, they were unsatisfied and unhappy.
It just reads like a lawyer's letter to me. Speaking the truth, safe in the knowledge that people will gloss over the writing and pay attention to what they've been verbally told over and over again.
Tammy
i would just like some opinions on something that seems strange to me.
there is a man at my sons' school who comes every day to pick up his daughter.
he has always been friendly with me, and i am friendly back, which is fine.
Perhaps. But I do understand flirting, and this just had a different feel to it.
Which is why I sought other opinions.
a scientific dissent from darwinism2 www.dissentfromdarwin.org .
a scientific dissent from darwinism3 www.dissentfromdarwin.org .
a scientific dissent from darwinism4 www.dissentfromdarwin.org .
Perry, I haven't commented on your threads yet, but I just wanted to clarify something.
An observable fact is something that others can see and verify. Others can not see and verify the knowledge that you personally have. That's why knowledge of God is based on faith.
Tammy
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i'm looking for a response to a question overlooked on another thread .... a friend just wrote to say that one does not need to be the sequoia in the forest, this after a mutual lament that we cannot accomplish creatively all that we aspire to .... your thoughts?.
coco.
I am sad to say, No.
I've had writers block for a year... though it probably moved from writer's block into fear without me noticing. I need to stop making excuses and I need to start writing again, even if I write crap for a while.
I'm just having trouble with 'knowing what I have to do' and 'actually doing it'.
Tammy
i would just like some opinions on something that seems strange to me.
there is a man at my sons' school who comes every day to pick up his daughter.
he has always been friendly with me, and i am friendly back, which is fine.
Soooo... I was running late to pick the boys up at school from work, which was kind of a good thing, since I couldn't get nervous about how I was going to handle any given situation.
Basically, I just passed him in the corridor with a nod and a curt 'hey', then kept walking without waiting for his response. He'd had his hand out again, (why in the world would I feel the need to shake it again?) but I ignored that all business-like and never glanced at him again. I did notice that he had to just let his hand fall back to his side, but whatever.
I think that's how I'll handle him until he takes the hint. If he ever out and out propositions something, then I can out and out refuse.
I really would have loved to use one of the smartass or seemingly clueless responses that you guys gave, but I know myself. I would have blushed and that would have blown the ruse. But at least lots of people got some chuckles out of this post, and I got a lot of smart and caring advice... reminding me to avoid getting caught in a dangerous situation.
Mad - thanks for your concern. But I wouldn't even know how to put someone's name through the sex offender database. Is it different in the States than in Canada?
Tammy