I remember getting all worked up and angry about something said like that on stage. I couldn't do it any more. I quit going and never returned. What a blessing!
crazy2try
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Jehovah does NOT cause bad things to happen
by DS211 inok third rant since last night.
a "demonstration" was given on how to give some brochures and in this demo it starts:.
"hi im suchandsuch and im one of jehovahs witnesses".
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Is my mind still controlled???.....Is yours????
by KateWild inwe are all set for a lovely xmas week and nice holiday, but this image is indellably printed in my brain and i cannot erase it.. .
it's from the bible teach book, chapter 16 para 11. i did that many bible studies and trained them how we need to make a stand for true worship and not ever return to pagan practices.. so now over this season of good will, and fun i have a literal bitter taste.. are you having flash backs?
how can we remove these images from our brain?
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LOL, we had so much funny playing the game last night. Turns out it is actually called dungeons, created by dungeons and Dragons. I was so shocked at first I didn't realize there was a difference.
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Is my mind still controlled???.....Is yours????
by KateWild inwe are all set for a lovely xmas week and nice holiday, but this image is indellably printed in my brain and i cannot erase it.. .
it's from the bible teach book, chapter 16 para 11. i did that many bible studies and trained them how we need to make a stand for true worship and not ever return to pagan practices.. so now over this season of good will, and fun i have a literal bitter taste.. are you having flash backs?
how can we remove these images from our brain?
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Today I opened a gift. Knowing my family bought me a board game we all would enjoy. I was shocked. In my hands was dungeons and dragons. I had immediate flashbacks of talks mentioning the game and I even think a article mentioning how evil it was. Took me a min to shake it off and give it a chance.
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Christmas is WRONG!
by thesaint inyou all should be ashamed of your egotistical selves.
how can you leave god's organization to celebrate the work of satan the devil?
it just goes to show you how jehovah's christian witnesses are correct about how persons will leave the truth for their own selfish desires.. first off, christmas is a pagan holiday and it proves no spirit with the almighty jehovah and his son, the christ.
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Wow..I soooo want to go back. After being scolded and talked down to. What a good witness. Not.
I know Jesus wasn't born in December, but I'm glad Christmas is. Where I live It is dark until after 7:30am and the sun sets at 5:00. It is dreary and cold. What better time of year to bring some hope and joy to people. I actually felt more selfish before leaving the org. I never volunteered in my community, assisting those and being with others with a true giving heart. I love Listening to beautiful God given voices. Yep....loving Christmas here!
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Been a long time...but here is an update.
by crazy2try ini haven't posted in 3 years.
my husband and i haven't gone to a meeting or memorial in 2 years.
what a great feeling!
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Thank you all for your kind words. I woke up this morning and saw your posts and felt so great. Thank you.
I know that my journey isn't complete. I feel like the brothers may show up one day and demand our intentions. Especially if the see my decorations I'm collecting for next year. LOL. When that time comes, I feel strong and secure enough now to respectfully tell them, they can decide what they want. They can announce what they want, but there is no way I am coming back. I respectfully refuse to play that game. I have no anger towards the brothers who are being controlled, but feel sorry for them. I think the best thing I can do is be loving, kind, respectful. Maybe one of those brothers may be feeling trapped as well.
I also don't want my children to believe my childhood was horrible. It was messed up for sure, but I know my parents did what they thought was right. Both left years before me. That was a hard confusing time. My dad was a PO all my childhood. My children know my dad as a fun loving guitar playing motorcycle riding hippy. Very different then the man I knew as a child. I'm grateful for the change. My mom remarried a wonderful man who always has time for her. Watching my mom while I grew up, was the biggest deterrent to being a witness. I told my husband before we married that he could not be an elder, based off what my mom's life was like. We have been married now 18 years.
Thankfully my husband has agreed to leaving too, his journey has been different then mine. As you can guess, I like to talk about it. But he is more private. I like to talk about all the little challenges I face- for example: I worked at a school for a few years. It was a child's birthday. They passed out cup cakes. I ate mine almost immediately. LOL...the Little boy next to me noticed. He quietly told me I am suppose to wait for the birthday child to take a bite. He then proceeded to get me another one. LOL. Moments like that...lol seriously. There are so many more. But I better go now, dinner needs to be started.
Take care! And thank you!
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Been a long time...but here is an update.
by crazy2try ini haven't posted in 3 years.
my husband and i haven't gone to a meeting or memorial in 2 years.
what a great feeling!
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crazy2try
I haven't posted in 3 years. (I think) . My husband and I haven't gone to a meeting or memorial in 2 years. What a great feeling! I do not miss the hall. We faded as much as we could. I still have close family that attend, but they no longer ask us to come or discuss witness topics, unless we bring them up. My husband has not cut his hair since we quit going. He has long curly ringlets.LOL. he also got his ears pierced. I think he would have done these things when he was a teen, but due to the limitations of being an jw, he never felt free to express himself.
Our lives have changed so much and I love it. My husband coaches for our middle school football team. Our children are very active in sports,music, and our little community. Our son is student body president and our daughter is very creative and is very active in 4H.
I am amazed on how narrow my thinking was prior to leaving. I have allowed myself to get to know other people,be a part of my community. I feel blessed. My new friends welcome me with no value placed on how often I attend meetings,put in time, or how often I give talks. It is a freeing feeling.
Recently a brother who travels,stopped by our door. He obviously had heard about us and had met our jw family. He reminded me of a used car salesman. My husband was home. I was so happy he was. The face the brother made was very entertaining,when he saw my husband's long hair and earrings. But he gained his composure and began to talk. Unfortunately, he began to talk about how horrible the world is and how we can't trust anyone outside the faith. This upset me, as the language he used was so typical of a narrow minded witness. (Some witnesses have good hearts) I held my tongue and let my husband handle it. I was so proud of him. He let the brother know..... I don't know you.....you are saying very judgmental things about people you don't know. ......I meet people and base my trust of their actions. My husband then asked him to leave. Another brother was with him, whom we love. My husband told him that he is welcome to come back anytime.
It is Christmas now, we will be celebrating.
For those of you trying to get out.......it feels wonderful to feel free........ to be who I want to be.
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Convention without a 'Badge'
by IMHO ini attended a convention recently but didn't wear a badge i was treated with the utmost suspicion.
particularly when i arrived during the sessions one day.
the attendant didn't want me wandering off to find a seat on my own.
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LOL, I hated to wear them. I quit a long time ago. Of course I haven't been to a convention in a few years. I hated getting things stuck on them, them ruining my dress, them flipping open and making me look like a dork. Goodness. I never had odd looks. My in-laws would hand an extra to me and I would pretend to lose it. LOL. Saw no purpose in them except to hinder us with one more detail, one more way of making us the same.
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Update: It has been forever since I have been on the forum
by crazy2try inwell, it has been a long time since i have checked in.
i have been fading from my congergation for awhile now.
my husband was having issues with it all, but i am proud to say he has completely backed me up and now has jumped ahead and completely changed his thinking on attending meetings and raising our children within the org.
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Well, It has been a long time since I have checked in. I have been fading from my congergation for awhile now. My husband was having issues with it all, but I am proud to say he has completely backed me up and now has jumped ahead and completely changed his thinking on attending meetings and raising our children within the org.
He has always been a free spirit that seemed contained. He always wanted to grow his hair "to see what it would do." He has thick curyly locks. Granted his hair is a bit long for me now, but he loves it. He now has his ears pierced in studdly guages. LOL. Never thought that would happen. He plays music instead of worrying about talks, going out in service or making sure he gets a haircut to keep the curls under control. LOL.
Kids are doing good. My 11 year old boy has a lot of questions and I am just honest with him. My 8 year old could care less.
I just have my in-laws to deal with occasionally. I have become excellent at avoiding the topic, dodging the question or changing the subject when and if it is ever brought up. I think my husband's hair and earrings say it all.
They always make sure to invite us to the upcoming events with a hopefull gleam in their eyes. But you know what.....I don't have to say a word. They know we are not going to come. No need to discuss it.
Do I miss any of it? NOT AT ALL!
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A Witness Child
by zarco inour daughter is writing down some of her experiences growing up as a witness.
i thought i would share a sample of her writing.
it is fun for us to read, but a little sad to see the guilt she placed upon herself for doing normal kid things....... .
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Thank you for sharing. It brings back so many memories for myself growing up in th truth.
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Son asked today
by crazy2try inneither of them ever asked to go.
he then asked about my family.
he asked if that was because my mom is no longer a jw.
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To answer your quesiton Lady Lee, sorry I ramble a little. My in-laws are still very active JW's and we live very close to them but not near my family.
My hubby and I moved thousands of miles away from (my family) our home state when we first married and became involved with several congergations in our new area near my in-laws. That was over 14 years ago. We visit my family yearly. But we live very close to my husbands parents who are both very active JW's and really helped out with my kids. My kids adore them. I call them the "apple pie grandparents."
When I moved away from my family (14yrs ago) they were all still very active, but having lots of issues. Hence they divorced and my dad stepped down as a elder and then finally faded out. Very shocking. All this transpired in the last few years. Now he is a long haired hippy riding a bike. Love it. Anyways.
But we currently live in a extremely small town with a lot of fellow ex-witness friends that live locally. I would personally love to just cut the strings, but my hubby is struggling. I know the story I tell is more about me, but my husband has made some hard choices too. I don't know how else to explain it, but I am more set and ready to get out, but I need to be patient. He is mostly concerned about his parents feelings and a wonderful brother who was always there for us when we needed help, unlike many of the other brothers in the hall. My in-laws and that brother are truly wonderful.