My heart bleeds for you my friend.
I have to also confess that my heart is permanently destroyed because I was an elder for 11 years...... I saw this sort of stuff all the time. I went into the night to get the PO's son who was attempting suicide (his parents threw him out for backing out of being an unbaptized publisher), I've listened to children tell they elder fathers never studied with them, that they knew nothing..... I've gone out on hunts to find other elders daughters in men's apartments...... the list goes on.
Its so sick that this religion treats children this way...... it gives me raging anger.
Imagine Jesus treating the woman at the well in John 4 this way. Or Mary Magdalene......or the woman with the flow of blood in Mark 5.
Somehow this crazy cult gets rational people to become crazed haters of their own family. I'm truly sorry.