Nice letter, HB. But you know that you will be labeled an *gasp* apostate. All the things you list that bother you are exactly the buss words the elders are watching for to label "apostate".
I hope you can crack your family's foundation, but don't be surprised that they start shunning you. I found in the past that one thing dropped at an interesting time may help people listen. Too much info overwhelms and labels are applied.
Just my 2 cents.
Joy