Posts by NiceDream

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Brief elders visit! Ack!

by NiceDream in

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15 years ago

yesterday, my husband and i were having a dub over for dinner and i went to the door thinking our friend was there.

surprise!

2 elders were there instead and i was scared.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

Yesterday, my husband and I were having a Dub over for dinner and I went to the door thinking our friend was there. Surprise! 2 elders were there instead and I was scared. They had their Bibles in their hands and were all dressed up, and I realized how scary that could seem to a householder. They were awkward and asked how I was doing and if my hubby was available. I told them he was busy making dinner, and they wanted to know if it wasn't a good time. I said "no," and they looked a bit shocked like they weren't sure what to do. They just repeated that it wasn't a good time, and left KMs. They didn't even say they've missed us at meetings or wondered if we were going to the DC. It was very odd.

Then our Dub friend who is getting divorced for a second time came over. He was so judgmental about worldly people. He kept talking about the meeting, the new song book, talks, wanting to become an elder, and even said he wouldn't date an "apostate." This guy was inactive for YEARS, and I find it odd that he's all gung-ho and "loves the Truth so much" all of a sudden. He needs to be "spiritual" so he can get a good JW wife despite his bad track record for picking them out.

I'm not sure how faders can do this! The elder visit was so scary, and it was only a 3 minute conversation. I admire you all for your courage.

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I need some ideas on how to hide extra keys outside

by asilentone in

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15 years ago

i would need some suggestions.

thanks!.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

You can buy a fake rock to hide a key in http://www.amazon.com/Rock-Hide-a-Key-Warning-Decal-Set/dp/B001JYYFZW

In a flowerpot?

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Watchtower/Toyota Prius

by exwhyzee in

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15 years ago

like the toyota prius.....i wonder if there will be a factory recall of the millions of pieces of literature that were spread throughout the world with the wrong "generation" information in them ?.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

Hahaha, it's kinda like when we were studying the Revelation book a few years back and had to paste little "alterations" over certain sentences and scriptures...I gave up and got an updated book.

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I feel so alone within Jw's

by XPeterX in

15 years ago

why won't any jw call me?i always call them and they avoid me or meet me only for study and meetings.they won't even start a conversation with me on msn!i feel somewhat uncomfortable within jw 'friends'.i have prayed a lot about this all of my adolescent years and still no response.did this happen to you too?.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

I'm sorry you feel that way XPeterX, I've been feeling lonely at the hall for 10 years and was sticking it out, hoping my prayers would be answered too.

When I was a teen, my friends stopped hanging out with me because they were leaving the organization and getting into trouble and didn't want to involve me.

As a young adult, unless you're "in" with the social clique, you don't have much chance for any invites if you're in an unsocial hall like mine. Growing up we'd have dances and picnics, but that all stopped when some elders got too carried away imposing rules. The fun stopped...no "decades" or dress up parties, etc.

Being an adult can be a difficult time. Your good friends could have moved away, or you have different interests and priorities and just drift apart. Finding new friends can be easy though, just join a community group or program like a hiking or run club (whatever you're interested in), and you'll make new friends in no time.

If you still believe in God, I would also recommend reading the Bible. I have found more comfort in the scriptures now than ever before. And I've found new Christian friends that I can talk about faith with who don't judge my ideas.

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Seed Planting Questions That Worked For Me Recently

by Confuzzled in

15 years ago

i'm a really big eckhart tolle follower, and recently i was rereading a new earth and i showed my dubby this proverb he mentioned, which kind of bothered him when i explained it.. "the hand pointing to the moon is not the moon.".

he didn't quite get it, so i explained that it basically means that just because a man, or religion, is pointing out god to you, it doesn't mean you worship the man or religion.

he didn't seem to want to debate it because he didn't have an answer or counter point.. also while explaining the path tolle shows (pragmatic explainations of age-old beliefs, from jesus to buddah, they all said the same things), he said he didn't think tolle believed in god.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

Thanks, those were Ray Franz's thoughts I regurgitated. Couldn't believe such an opportuinity would pop up the next day!

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Seed Planting Questions That Worked For Me Recently

by Confuzzled in

15 years ago

i'm a really big eckhart tolle follower, and recently i was rereading a new earth and i showed my dubby this proverb he mentioned, which kind of bothered him when i explained it.. "the hand pointing to the moon is not the moon.".

he didn't quite get it, so i explained that it basically means that just because a man, or religion, is pointing out god to you, it doesn't mean you worship the man or religion.

he didn't seem to want to debate it because he didn't have an answer or counter point.. also while explaining the path tolle shows (pragmatic explainations of age-old beliefs, from jesus to buddah, they all said the same things), he said he didn't think tolle believed in god.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

Ooooh, awesome proverb. I'll have to try and use that one sometime.

Recently I tried planting a seed of doubt. Our toddler called my husband by his first name and my husband was upset. I asked him why, was it because using his name wasn't as personal as his speical role of "Daddy?" He said yes. Then I said that is how I feel about using God's name. Jesus and his disciples said "Father" or "God" which indicated a close relationship and respect. I was met with silence, but the wheels were turning.

Now I'm waiting to show him how the name Jehovah in the NT is based on Bible translations from the 1500-1900s instead if the original Hebrew manuscripts like we thought!

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WT September 15, 2010 - The Faithful and NOT SO Discrete Slave

by Designer Stubble in

15 years ago

the wt of september 15, 2010 (kool-aid version) has two articles on unity.

one is titled: unity identifies true worship and the other christian unity glorifies god.

of course it is more uniformity, not true unity.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

BANE - Don't you have ANYTHING else of interest to do in your life other than complaining and criticizing other members posts on here?

Anywho, thanks for posting this. I will check this article out and make sure I have a good discussion with my mate about it.

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What to Do? What to Do? What to Say?

by whathehadas in

15 years ago

i am inactive and trying to fade as some of you know.

since my family in still in, i've been recieving "we me you" cards from the congo i was going to.

i have also recieved a few calls from the congo i move from that's out of the area.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

I would give him a quick call just to express your sympathies for him, or send a note or card. You can keep the conversation quick if you want, and just tell him that you are sorry to hear the news and hope he's doing ok.

You don't have to answer anything you don't feel comfortable with, and can end the conversation at anytime. If you don't feel like answering questions, just stay on topic and explain you were just calling to offer your sympathies and end the conversation there. I don't think they'd try and get you into trouble, and if they do, that's a really sick way for them to go about it. The CBOE probably just wanted you to know because the sick brother was fond of you.

Take care,

NiceDream

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Fight with wife over watching Avatar escalates to near-separation--true story

by sd-7 in

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15 years ago

it's true because it happened to me last night.

i knew it was trouble when she started looking at my kindle.

once she got to the short stories i wrote 3 years ago, autobiographical, some of it involving her, i knew i wouldn't be going to bed before 1:00 (it was 11:40 p.m. by then).

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

I'm sorry you're facing this right now. Your wife isn't being respectful, gracious, or loving. Picking a fight about Avatar is just a cover for a deeper issue she's struggling with and trying to hide. If you wanted to try and work things out, please see a marriage counselor.

If you try and get counseling and your wife isn't cooperative, I would move on with my life because you deserve to be happy too. There needs to be a mutual respect in your home for it to work well. If she can't respect your beliefs and you as a person, how is she living up to her marriage vows? It sounds like her "love language" is quality time (from the 5 Love Languages book). For her to feel connected to you, she needs you to talk to her and share your feelings with her everyday. You do a lot to help out around the house (which is amazing!), but she doesn't see it as an act of love from you, she just wants your attention. I'm not sure if that will help fix your marriage, but that book may be helpful.

I wouldn't committ fornication to "free" her to remarry either. That would just prove to everyone what a "bad" person you are, and you're not a bad person. She can deal with the consequences for not wanting to work things out. Don't give her a scriptural divorce so she can have her cake and eat it too.

It sounds like you still love your wife, and I hope that you are able to come to a mutual understanding, and that she can show you respect. If she can't, I hope that you're able to find someone who really loves you and treats you right.

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Whooping Cough Epidemic in California

by blondie in

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15 years ago

i remember these immunizations and the boosters when i was a kid; i also remember the terrible cough the next door neighbors little girl had.

are your children's immunizations up to date?

also yours, your family, the neighbors, anyone who will be around the baby?.

15 years ago

NiceDream 15 years ago

It's sad those babies got sick. Were those newborns being breastfed? That's the best protection against illness. Also, not being in daycare helps. Not sure of the history of these little ones though.

In Canada, a 2 month old is vaccinated against 8 different diseases in one visit...far too much for my liking. We've postponed them and stay home when sick and focus on a healthy diet. I guess I'm a new agey, crunchy granola type.

My friends daughter only recieved one vaccine and ended up really ill in the ER. Her doctor told her not to get anymore vaccines because the risk outweighed the benefit.

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