Cognizant dissident and Scared for life, I totally agree with you. My husband and I used to have a social life outside the Borg before we got the children. But since they are born, we have so much to do with our jobs, the children, meetings, preparation, FS and so on, that we don’t go out anymore with colleagues. No time for jogging / marathon/training etc anymore…I’m working at “restoring” those activities so that Hubby forgets the social network we have in the KH.
And yes you’re right, those “friendships” are conditional. I feel it already. I used to be very “zealous”, but since I found all that out, WE don’t prepare any meeting (nearly 3 months now!) anymore which would have been unthinkable 4 months ago.
I also try to work at Hubby. This morning during breakfast, I asked him what he would think of an organization pretending to be led by HS and that teaches something and exactly the contrary a few years later. If he were Jehovah, would he deceive his people by telling something and then the contrary? I then took the example of the 1995 generation teaching that pretended that this G couldn’t be the anointed as the disciples were not already anointed as Jesus pronounced this prophecy. So this G must be the G of wicked ones. And the new teaching (15 years later) affirms that the G is an overlapping G of anointed. He couldn’t disagree with me and answered they cannot be led by the HS. Then he mentioned the rain or not rain before the flood teaching which we never could believe in. And then I told him our argument has always been this belief is not that important for our faith so we had no problem with it. I also told him that regarding the new G-teaching, many say it’s not that important for their faith in the FDS. But when we think about the fact that the 1914 doctrine is the core teaching for JW, all we believe in is based on that date, shouldn’t it be important for our faith?
He surely will think about it. It may take time, but I want to get him out of this cult because he is a really great guy. That’s why I try to do it very slowly since April but I’m just feeling tired of it all. We have DC this week-end and after that I want to stop going…he will have to accept it.
Thanks to all for your comments!
Desi
