I really enjoyed reading this, Billy. I wish you would do a "Crisis" book of your own.
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exJW Psychology 103--Let's Reconsider "Confidentiality"
by Billy the Ex-Bethelite inover the course of decades as a jw, an elder, a bethelite, then learning ttatt and wanting to leave, i'd collected a lot of insight into the power of "confidentiality.
" although the confidentiality in a judicial hearing is supposedly to protect the sinner, in actuality, i saw that it was about control and was protecting the power of the jc.. i didn't use any of this knowledge until i was called before the boe because the other elders figured they had grounds to remove me as an elder.
it was a work situation that only lasted a matter of hours, but it was enough that they seized the moment.
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My Mom has decided to turn me in... I am not afraid (Letter Inside)
by sosoconfused inthe only reason i am posting this is because i know many of you are going or will be going through something similar and wonder if it is worth it.
i personally feel that it is worth it regardless of what i lose.
my wife is backing me and i have my children.
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laverite
The fact that what she is telling people is that you have "...turned my back on the organization" speaks VOLUMES. It's all about the bOrg. Cult. Period.
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My Mom has decided to turn me in... I am not afraid (Letter Inside)
by sosoconfused inthe only reason i am posting this is because i know many of you are going or will be going through something similar and wonder if it is worth it.
i personally feel that it is worth it regardless of what i lose.
my wife is backing me and i have my children.
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laverite
Sosoconfused:
You wrote:
"She still has all the bound volumes going back who knows how many years but has literally taped them all closed so that "She is not persuaded by old light". It is a freak show"
WOW. Just...WOW. Everything from her letter SCREAMED cult. It's all about a giant publising corporation and her complete and total loyalty to it. There is nothing she wouldn't sacrifice for the Corp. Not you. Not her family. Not even herself. So very sad.
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What books, songs, artists, movies, etc were banned in your JW home?
by serenitynow! inmy mother was very strict about entertainment.
in school i was doing a project about teen suicide and had checked out some books on suicide and abortion.
i had alot of explaining to do for that.
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laverite
I just had a flashback to the Flashdance theme song. It was banned from our home/car radio in a major way!!!! My father thought the words "Take your passion, and make it happen" were "Take your pants down, and make it happen."
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i would love to debate
by new hope and happiness ini would love to be able to debate some of the issues on this site.. this is the first site i have debated on.. i would like to debate with credibility.. i think i debate on only what i feel secure about, and that is a good start.
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but on this thread i would appreciate some tips on how to constrctively debate on a thread..
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laverite
Nice example, Julia. It works for high school and college as well.
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I think my wife is going to open the can of worms...
by sosoconfused inso over the last 5 - 7 months as some may know i have resigned as an elder and just came to a cold stop going to the meetings.
brothers call i wont answer the phone.
if they come by i just wont answer the door.
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laverite
ecan6 - this is a great response. Not one that they would be ready to deal with probably. They are used to those who say "Yeah, I know, I need to be more regular, bla bla bla." But to turn that around, and not even recognize the rule that meeting attendance is expected at every meeting (except in very rare circumstances) to get a ticket for entry into the Paradise Earth TM (if you're lucky)...well that has to be confusing for them. LOL. Saying you have a goal to be there once or twice a month -- well, how do they even respond to that? Is there anywhere in Bible that says a certain number of meetings a week are required? If they tell you that the Bible says " do not foresake the gathering of yourselves together" you can always say "I'm not! I'm very regular with my bi-weekly attendance." LOL. Love it.
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Former Long Time Elder, part 3
by James Jackson into answer some of your questions.
i phone my son on thursday and was able to help him get his paper work in order for, get this: "college".
we're good.. the wife and i have about 10 family members that are jw's as well as over 12 close friends, 100's of friends in 5 states.
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laverite
That's good James. Just being protective of those still in and not out yet.
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Former Long Time Elder, part 3
by James Jackson into answer some of your questions.
i phone my son on thursday and was able to help him get his paper work in order for, get this: "college".
we're good.. the wife and i have about 10 family members that are jw's as well as over 12 close friends, 100's of friends in 5 states.
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laverite
Can'tleave - Rugby...awesome. So much better than American football. Would it surprise anyone to say that Ben Cohen is my absolute favorite sportsperson ever in the history of the universe?
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Former Long Time Elder, part 3
by James Jackson into answer some of your questions.
i phone my son on thursday and was able to help him get his paper work in order for, get this: "college".
we're good.. the wife and i have about 10 family members that are jw's as well as over 12 close friends, 100's of friends in 5 states.
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laverite
James - yikes, you may want to edit your last post just to be extra careful to protect your identity. Maybe delete the content and put a smile there instead? I'm the paranoid type though.
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I think my wife is going to open the can of worms...
by sosoconfused inso over the last 5 - 7 months as some may know i have resigned as an elder and just came to a cold stop going to the meetings.
brothers call i wont answer the phone.
if they come by i just wont answer the door.
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laverite
Absolutely, positively epic. What a shock the secretary got, ay? Last thing he expected surely. I bet he was expecting a sob story of (pick one or more): depression, too much work, needing to sort yourselves out, family troubles, desperation to come back but somehow paralyzed with fear/anxiety/shame...
What an awesome wife you have there.
