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  Looking for advice

  by Liveandlearn in

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  hello, i've finally been approved here so it's time for my first post.

  i got disfellowshipped a few months ago as i was unrepentant in my judicial.

  i'd lived with a situtation for a long time.

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  laverite

  Liveandlearn,

  If you feel you need back "in" due to being held hostage by the Organization, do not feel one bit guilty about that. Not one bit. It's terrible you are being shunned, and (in my opinion) the Org has MUCH to answer for. You know how they are with their theocratic warfare strategies. Use some of your own and don't feel guilty about it. The WTS wouldn't feel one bit shamed by using their dishonest 'theocratic warfare'...

  I really hope things go in the direction you want them to go. You deserve it after what you've been through!
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  Looking for advice

  by Liveandlearn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, i've finally been approved here so it's time for my first post.

  i got disfellowshipped a few months ago as i was unrepentant in my judicial.

  i'd lived with a situtation for a long time.

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  laverite

  Perhaps this is what we should focus on. The situation with your parents. Are they shunning you completely? Maybe we can brainstorm in the thread about ways to mitigate this? You will find so many of us understand this heartbreak here. And WE CARE about that. Very much.

  Maybe your strategy of going back for them isn't such a bad one especially if they are very elderly. What do others think? I can understand that. We do care and should be supportive of you.

  I'm sorry what you are going through. x
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  Looking for advice

  by Liveandlearn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, i've finally been approved here so it's time for my first post.

  i got disfellowshipped a few months ago as i was unrepentant in my judicial.

  i'd lived with a situtation for a long time.

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  laverite

  Liveandlearn - ok now we are getting somewhere.
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  Looking for advice

  by Liveandlearn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, i've finally been approved here so it's time for my first post.

  i got disfellowshipped a few months ago as i was unrepentant in my judicial.

  i'd lived with a situtation for a long time.

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  laverite

  Outlaw - as usual, you sum up a whole thread into one or two brief comments perfectly. It's so true! Life isn't fair. Sometimes we have to just put on our big girl panties, take a deep breath and deal with reality.
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  Looking for advice

  by Liveandlearn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, i've finally been approved here so it's time for my first post.

  i got disfellowshipped a few months ago as i was unrepentant in my judicial.

  i'd lived with a situtation for a long time.

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  laverite

  I hope my post above does not sound too harsh. But it's honest. Liveandlearn, you sound very young from your posts. I'm guessing you are an adult, as you have been married. There is most assuredly a maturity issue here. Try to grow and develop as an adult and work on becoming a more mature person who isn't so concerned about what others are getting to do vs. what you get to do. Greater happiness and personal fulfilllment become more possible and you will be more likely to find peace.
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  Looking for advice

  by Liveandlearn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, i've finally been approved here so it's time for my first post.

  i got disfellowshipped a few months ago as i was unrepentant in my judicial.

  i'd lived with a situtation for a long time.

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  laverite

  Liveandlearn - who cares what others are doing and what they can get away with. Worry about yourself. That's the kind of mentality one finds among elementary school children. It does not reflect a mature way to go through life as an adult.

  You will have to figure out how to balance the lies, knowing you could get caught (by family, friends, elders, etc.) at any moment. You will live a double life. You will be a person with dual identities. Do not think for a moment that you will escape unscathed from living like that.
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  Billy the Ex are you

  by laverite in

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  ...going into your last academic year for your bachelor's in engineering?

  or is it 1.5 years still?

  anyway, it's that time of year (or quickly will be).

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  laverite

  ...going into your last academic year for your bachelor's in engineering? Or is it 1.5 years still? Anyway, it's that time of year (or quickly will be). Are you excited? Can you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel?
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  Looking for advice

  by Liveandlearn in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello, i've finally been approved here so it's time for my first post.

  i got disfellowshipped a few months ago as i was unrepentant in my judicial.

  i'd lived with a situtation for a long time.

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  laverite

  Liveandlearn - There aren't any magical quick and painless answers to what you want to do. You have someone you are "living" with, don't want to marry necessarily (but don't want to give up "living" with your partner), don't really want to go to all meetings and maybe lie about where you go, etc., etc. etc...but want to get reinstated quickly and painlessly.

  No magical ways to get this done, I'm afraid. Figure out what hoops they want you to jump through and do it if you want back in. If you want to live with your sweetie, perhaps move 30 miles away where they won't drop in on you, and commute to meetings. Get creative if you want to do it, but it will not necessarily be quick or painless. It will be pretty tough doing all this work necessary to get back in IMHO.

  Best of luck to you as you seek your reinstatement.
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  My Jimi Hendrix experience

  by confusedandalone in

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  as a 13 year old a friend of mine had a jimi hendrix record and told me if we play it backwards that they said words.

  he bought the record from a shop not far from where we lived and we were the only family that still had a record player.

  so we played the record and i spun it backwards andnothing happened.

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  laverite

  Let's face it, as born-ins we did NOT have normal lives. My father had MAJOR freak outs over all kinds of things. I remember he had a seriously major freak out over the Flashdance song. He thought the singer was saying "Take your pants down. And make it happen!" instead of what was actually sung..."Take your passion" (not take your pants down, for heaven's sakes!!!). Gawd.
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  hi everybody..

  by americanboy in

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  hi friends,can i introduce my self?

  i am luca from italy,31 years old,first off all be patience with my english....i'm working on it.... i write here cause i would like to know someone from usa e canada,my life project is to immigrate there..my collection of informations is just started,it's seems very difficult,but ,who know....maybe it could be possible :).

  so,anyone want to greet me and help me?

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  laverite

  Americanboy,

  Welcome! As I am sure you know, there have been and continue to be many problems with the Watchtower religion that need careful examination. This is a wonderful place to learn from each other and discuss all things Watchtower. All are welcome here -- current and former witnesses and certainly those who the Watchtower Corporation would term "human apostates."

  Read and learn as much as you can. Again, welcome!

  La Vérité