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  Question For Those Who Have Been Around Awhile...

  by BoomTown in

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  i started fading about a year and a half ago after i saw serious problems within the organization and doctrinal flaws.

  i was a ms, bethelite, pioneer for the better part of 10 years.. while pioneering as a ministerial servant i married a girl who wasn't considered "strong" in the truth despite being raised in the truth.

  anyway for the better part of the last 18 months i talk to her about the flaws when an opportunity presents itself.she no longer goes out in the ministry(more or less for the last year).. .

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  A few more things. She is completely aware that I research the JW's. I tried using logic and realized logic doesn't work. If I ever bring up something from this website in the past she shuts down.

  I tried the praying thing about 17 and a half months ago. She doesn't let me pray now and quite frankly it doesn't bother me.

  Its not so much about her being in the true religion as it is "what happens if the witnesses are right and I die at armageddon" kinda mentality if that makes sense. Quite frankly, I remember thinking the same thing. This website along with freeminds did amazing things for my thought process.

  The difference between my wife and me is that I spent the first 15years of my life outside of the religion. My parents were contacted door to door and because they were having marital problems thought that studying would be a good idea...so for me to leave at the age of 25 I could just erase the last 7 years religion worth of thought processes like erasing a game on a computer.

  The problem with my wife is that the religion was built into her "hard drive" being raised in the truth her whole life. It has always been her. She can't just press the erase button without seeing a total crash...at least right now.

  I am trying to build relationships in the community to give her somewhere else to go when that time comes.

  Any other ideas? Keep them coming!
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  Question For Those Who Have Been Around Awhile...

  by BoomTown in

  1. jw
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  i started fading about a year and a half ago after i saw serious problems within the organization and doctrinal flaws.

  i was a ms, bethelite, pioneer for the better part of 10 years.. while pioneering as a ministerial servant i married a girl who wasn't considered "strong" in the truth despite being raised in the truth.

  anyway for the better part of the last 18 months i talk to her about the flaws when an opportunity presents itself.she no longer goes out in the ministry(more or less for the last year).. .

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  BoomTown

  I started fading about a year and a half ago after I saw serious problems within the organization and doctrinal flaws. I was a ms, bethelite, pioneer for the better part of 10 years.

  While pioneering as a ministerial servant I married a girl who wasn't considered "strong" in the truth despite being raised in the truth. Anyway for the better part of the last 18 months I talk to her about the flaws when an opportunity presents itself.She no longer goes out in the ministry(more or less for the last year).

  Last night she is venting to me about some friends at the hall judging others and says, "I realize there are serious flaws and yeah I don't totally agree with everything that they(watchtower) agree with but I still will go to meetings.

  She has also admitted the main reason she goes is because her parents go to the same hall and it would break theirhearts if she quit going. This in a lot of ways reminded me of how I started my fade. I started seeing flaws and then started doubting teaching and that in turn lead to my fade because it opened my eyes in what was really taking place.

  My question:Am I getting my hopes up that she is fading? I tried getting her to elaborate on what she meant by flaws but she didn't want to go further discuss what she meant. She also later stated that she knows there has to be one true religion and that the Jw's have it right because they are the only ones that don't celebrate holidays.

  What advice would you give to me? She seems to be more willing to talk now than ever. Should I press her a little harder or just let it ride because she is the one who has to decide if its right or wrong for her to fade.

  Any help would be greatly appreciated!
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  I don't believe my boyfriend is 100% committed to this religion. How to handle?

  by herlovelyworld in

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  hi guys!

  im very new here and i need a little help.. im not a witness, but i know all of the quirks and rules and whatnot because my long-distance boyfriend is a witness.

  the issue, other than the obvious, is that i fell in love with him before he told me he was one of jehovahs witnesses.

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  Get the hell away. Tell him that he belongs to a dangerous cult and that until he mails you a copy of his disassociation letter that it's best for the two of you not to be together. Sounds like in his mind he has justified his problems and believes he's still in good standing in the congregation. If anything, he is trying to get you to buy into the polar opposite of what you are trying to get him out of. Its really not worth it at all to keep trying. As you can already see, logic doesn't rule his mind. Get away before you find yourself getting dunked in a pool at a district convention.
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  Anything thelpful at this year's DA to help free my wife from the cult?

  by lifelong humanist in

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  2. beliefs

  i haven't posted here for about 5 or 6 months.

  i've looked through previous threads in an attempt to find out about the sort of stuff issued at the das this year, but without success.. my wife still attends some jw meetings.

  at present she's in attendance at the big da in perth, scotland.. can anyone on this board comment on any talks, demonstrations, experiences, etc.

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  Went today. It was pretty boring. Seems like the organization is moving towards more mainstream christianity with its new publication on jeremiah which focuses more on daily living than modern prophecy pointing to the end being tomorrow. I have empathy for you. I am in a very similar situation. Instead of attacking her religion, try to fill her time building relationships with good worldly people that will give her something to do instead of going to meetings and help her see that non jws aren't bad people.
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  Aren't You Embarrassed That YOU Ever Believed Any Of The Watchtower Bullsh*t?

  by minimus in

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  i do think about that and i realize that i should've gotten out sooner.

  ( i stayed in longer for various reasons).

  but the last few years i knew it was bullsh*t!

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  not embarrased. ashamed.
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  Have you ever went over a friends house to eat

  by gubberningbody in

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  and the food just aint no good, i mean the macaroni's soggy the peas are mushed and the chicken tastes like wood?

  so you try to play it off like you think you can by sayin that youre full and then your friend says momma he's just being polite he aint finished uh uh that's bull.

  so your heart starts pumping and you think of a lie and you say that you already ate and your friend says man there's plenty of food so you pile some more on your plate.

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  An elderly lady always had me over for lunch after the sunday meetings and she would have bugs/cochroaches crawling on the counter next to the food and sometimes in it. It was disfreakinggusting. I would eat sparingly.
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  JW Urban Legands

  by ShellyDee in

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  in my congregation we have many urban legands, like the one about the smurf doll jumping out of a girls lap and running out of the kh because it couldn't stand to hear the good news.

  we also had one where a sister was out in fs and a dog talked, it told a sister not to knock on this one door, the sister went to the house and knocked anyway, and the doors and windows of the house flew open and dishes flew out, the sister was scared and ran away and the dog yelled at her retreating back "i told you not to got here!

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  Dont forget about the guy who goes to his garden to commit suicide and every time he tries pulling the trigger the witnesses pull into his driveway. This happened on 3 seperate occasions so he knew it was the truth and that God was telling him to become a witness.
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  us healthcare plan - how does it affect bethellites?

  by DaCheech in

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  correct me if i'm wrong, but the new obama law makes it illegal not to buy healthcare.. the irs can enforce by penalizing people who do not buy into it.. bethellites cannot afford to pay for any outside healthcare.. any thoughts?.

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  Very similar as to how it was when I left Bethel in 2007. However, they are stingy as hell. I had a serious medical condition that as I left I asked for guidance and they said, "now that you've left Bethel, we'd have to use dedicated funds from members to cover your expenses." I've always found it ironic that when people need help the most, they give the least. A friend of mine had an organ failure while there and instead of covering the medical procedures until he was healthy again and could work full time, they sent him packing as soon as was healthy enough to leave. Pretty sad situation.
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  Why did you leave the 'Organization'?

  by XPeterX in

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  in a few words.....

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  The bloody blood doctrine bothered me too much. The way they misinterpreted scriptures to fit their beliefs was sickening to me. Once I figured that out, I started doing research on great websites.
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  The oil spill and bible prophecy

  by journey-on in

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  2. friends

  oh, boy!

  bible quotes about the nations "not knowing the way out" and one in revelation about the sea turning into blood!

  anybody else getting an earful about this from jw family or friends?.

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  I can hear the over zealous speaker at the district convention now, instilling fear one gallon of oil at a time. Whats worse than that was the time(last years special ass.(embly) day, a brother came from Bethel(actually someone I knen well) and said that the witnesses had predicted the great financial meltdown that was occuring and nothing being said in the news was surprising as at "world headquarters, because "we knew it was coming." My mouth literally dropped to the floor when he said that. Lost almost all respect I had for him instantly.