Welcome Defianttruth to JWN, Your questions would be helpful to JWs if you were not talking with a JW drone (someone who blindly follows the WTBTS and stopped critically thinking about WTBTS's doctrines). Unfortunately the WTBTS is very good at employing BITE control techniques to control and victimize JWs.
Have you read Steve Hassan's books (i.e., "Combatting Cult Mind Control", "Releasing the Bonds: Empowering People to Think for Themselves", and "Freedom of Mind: Helping Loved Ones Leave Controlling People, Cults and Beliefs")? You will have a better understanding about why JWs behave the way they do after reading Steve Hassan's books or visiting his website.
Peace be with you and everone, who you love,
Robert