Posts by cherrypye

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My story/Proof of cross?

by FifthOfNovember in

hi all, i've been reading this site for several weeks and i really liked the community and it seems like a good place where i discuss my concerns openly.. about me: .

i've been studying since elementary school, i became an unbaptized publisher in elementary school too.

i currently am in high school.

How long is long enough to consider yourself safe?

by cherrypye in

jw
friends

for those of us that were baptized and faded, how long do you think before we can stop worrying about being called in for a jc?

i've faded 13 years ago, but i still never answer an unknown phone number, don't answer a knock at the door unless a friend has told me they are on their way, etc.

also, i avoid giving anyone other than my mom my contact info and no one gets my address.. i could care less about avoiding a df, were it not for my family that is still in.

V665, it's a sad fact, isn't it. My husband sometimes asks me why I spend so much time here. He said, "That religion is in your past." I explained to him that it's never in your past until those we love are free as well.

Factfinder, good for you! May it continue! Scarred, I'm glad your mom was free but I'm sorry that she had to live looking over her shoulder.

CyberJ, I did move --clear across the country. We recently moved back due to hubby's job. So now the fear is back.

Oldlite, GREAT NAME!!! Perhaps this is just the impetus I need to get that lyposuction! lol

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How long is long enough to consider yourself safe?

by cherrypye in

jw
friends

for those of us that were baptized and faded, how long do you think before we can stop worrying about being called in for a jc?

i've faded 13 years ago, but i still never answer an unknown phone number, don't answer a knock at the door unless a friend has told me they are on their way, etc.

also, i avoid giving anyone other than my mom my contact info and no one gets my address.. i could care less about avoiding a df, were it not for my family that is still in.

cherrypye

"In fact with your hubby acting as your bouncer, it sounds like you are in the ex-JW witness protection program."

Think About It, you're absolutely correct!!! Thank goodness for him!

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I feel bad about what i just did to my aged mom

by recovering in

i was disfellowshipped when i was 21 (raised as a witness).

my mother who is now 80 and a diehard witness always hoped that i would return.

she is concerned that she will soon pass away and the arrangements.

cherrypye

Recovering, I'm so sorry to hear this. Can you please consider how you might feel if you specifically asked your mother not to have a witness-type funeral for you and she did anyway? It would be very disrespectful. A person deserves to have their final wishes honored, in spite of how uncomfortable it might be for you. Please assure your mother that you'll respect that.

In addition, I suggest a follow-up conversation apologizing for causing your mom pain, and calmly explaining your position. Do this so you don't have to live with the possibly unbearable guilt of having hurt your mother, even if it was necessary. I'm so sorry.

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Generation Teaching - Everyone is speechless?

by Red Piller in

jw
friends

maybe the effect of this change is bigger than realized?

in 1995, it was discussed (positively) by everybody, during the week we studied the wt.

one elder stepped down and was looked down upon.

cherrypye

It's probably the guilt that keeps the weak believing. It's easy to believe something wholeheartedly when you haven't really taken the time to get to know it's flaws. Somewhat like a teenage infatuation.

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How long is long enough to consider yourself safe?

by cherrypye in

jw
friends

for those of us that were baptized and faded, how long do you think before we can stop worrying about being called in for a jc?

i've faded 13 years ago, but i still never answer an unknown phone number, don't answer a knock at the door unless a friend has told me they are on their way, etc.

also, i avoid giving anyone other than my mom my contact info and no one gets my address.. i could care less about avoiding a df, were it not for my family that is still in.

cherrypye

I fear you might be right, Moshe. It seems at some point, the wit-men would just leave us in peace.

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Generation Teaching - Everyone is speechless?

by Red Piller in

jw
friends

maybe the effect of this change is bigger than realized?

in 1995, it was discussed (positively) by everybody, during the week we studied the wt.

one elder stepped down and was looked down upon.

cherrypye

Honestly, what is there to say. Within a year, this will have to be changed -- it's such hogwash, it's embarrassing, and I think that's why it's being avoided. As a dub, no amount of kool-aid would make this easier to swallow.

In other news, I have to google the correct spelling of kool aid. What kind of 80's baby am I???

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Hospital Liason Committee Arseholes

by Hairyhegoat in

jw
friends

please be aware if you have just faded and were baptised , if you or your family have a major life or death accident the mongols from the hospital liason committe will always be there before you and will still try to take over the care for the family member.

why does this happen, you need to delete the master records of all family members and they are now not jw any more, if you don't they will still be called and you will have a fight on your hands to get them to leave.

contact your doctor / gp or hospital and get this sorted out.

cherrypye

I've written up a document explaining that I am no longer one of JW's and will accept any all all medically approved treatment to save my life. I also made my husband my POA, just in case my mom decides to pull out a blood card that I signed when I was nine. I did this before I was married to, explained to my closest friend and put in writing that she was POA and had full authority to override my parent's wishes in cases of medical treatment. Heck if I'm gonna die as a martyr to a religion I quit believing when I was still in HS!

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My story/Proof of cross?

by FifthOfNovember in

hi all, i've been reading this site for several weeks and i really liked the community and it seems like a good place where i discuss my concerns openly.. about me: .

i've been studying since elementary school, i became an unbaptized publisher in elementary school too.

i currently am in high school.

cherrypye

Welcome and congratulations. You sound like a very intelligent person...keep putting that critical thinking to good use and asking questions. Your history with the witnesses can enrich your future...as long as you keep the witnesses in the past. Seems like you have excellent written and likely verbal communication skills...couple that with a love of science and you're a double threat!!!

By the way, it doesn't sound like you were a bad witness...it sounds like you're an extremely well-behaved teenager.

Have you started making plans for college yet?

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So my Dad is finally out... And I'm as mad as hell!

by artemis.design in

jw
friends

my story isn't very interesting.

i left as a teen, never baptised.

a plesant but distant relationship with my jw family.

cherrypye

Hey Artemis. First of all, congratulations on having a family member see the light. I know you're angry, and it's completely understandable. Please tread lightly...your father can easily be pushed back into the comfort of the borg (ie not having to think for himself) if you give him too much too soon.

Every person has a reason their eyes are opened, in this case it was monetary. Please try to let go of the anger for years passed, and understand that your father was not his own man during these years. I would take just one day of having my (non-cult-controlled) mother back to mend our differences...this may be your chance to set things right and rebuild your relationship during your father's twilight years.

Best of luck.