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  CAN EVERYONE DO ME A FAVOUR?

  by Mary in

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  i haven't been on here much lately, but i read barb anderson's report on the court case in california the other day.

  nice to see the borg finally getting what they deserve.. anyway, the daily mail has done a story about it and at the end you can give your comments.

  i think there are a number of 'faithful witlesses' on there who are giving the "thumbs down" to any negative comments about the borg, including mine.

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  mamalove

  All set! Thanks for giving us the chance to make a difference.
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  ...My Vacation...

  by OUTLAW in

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  my vacation is over... .

  ............................ ...outlaw.

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  mamalove

  Glad to have you back Outlaw!!
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  From a currently serving elder: an open letter to the organization

  by elderelite in

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  there are 1000's who who hate this religion who are stuck ....inside it.

  we work against you, we use our position to convince and sway those that still drink your koolaid.

  we feed info to authorities who chase you, we warn off potiential converts by directing them to the real truth.

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  That was a great read EE. No one should judge you. We all have our own shoes to walk in. You are making your bed and are lying in it every day. Kudos to you. I think your efforts will pay off sooner than you think. PM coming your way!
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  Any conspiracy theories you're convinced has some truth to it?

  by MC RubberMallet in

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  i do.. 1) new world order.

  2) weapons testing.

  3) surveillance, espionage, and intelligence agencies.

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  mamalove

  I don't believe in any right now. If evidence comes forward to prove otherwise, I have no issue with changing my mind. But I don't see the point in soaking up my energy worrying about something I cannot reverse, prevent or control.
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  Did You Feel Truly Loved By The Witnesses?

  by minimus in

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  were you feeling the love from the "brothers" and "sisters"?

  if you did, for how long?

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  mamalove

  Yes in general I did. Sure there were some that rubbed me the wrong way, but when I was in, most were pretty nice and tried. Most were born ins who had little outside experience. I had a fun bunch of friends. When I quit going to meetings, it all changed.
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  Do women like being checked out?

  by MC RubberMallet in

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  2. relationships

  before, when men looked at a woman, they were fresh.. nowadays, when they don't look, they're gay.. i know each woman is different, so answers will vary, but in today's world, women react a lot differently to things that were once distasteful.. so which one is it?.

  fyi - i don't do that enlongated creepy guy stare..

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  mamalove

  Unfortunately some of my male friends have filled me in on what goes on in some men's minds. I.E. Spank Banks....so if a woman does not find the man attractive, my assumption would be that it would not be flattering, but make her rather squeamish. The shallow side of me is going to say that it if done in a understated way, it is ok, and flattering if you are an attractive man. We refer to it as prarie dogging. Where I work, is an office environment, and when a new, pretty girl starts, the designers and engineers often pop their heads over their cube walls to prarie dog the new girl. Kinda funny and now we just use the term.

  It is kind of uncomfortable if some kid in a 1998 Ford Escort yells out that you are a MILF, but if oogled properly, can put a little kick in your step, that any human being would secretly feel good about. Everyone has those ego needs once in a while.

  Just being honest...pls no flames!
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  I wish there were more JW's resisting the extreme elements within the religion

  by Hermano in

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  i wish there were more jw's resisting the extreme elements within the religion.

  i beleive there are many who know some of the things they hear and read are whack, but stay because they think it's still the group god has chosen.

  but there are ways to voice your opinion without being too vocal or disassociating:.

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  I think it really depends on the individual personality. My mother is hardcore JW. My sister went to college, 4 year degree. Never pioneered and she was more "spiritual" than I was in my mom's eyes.

  My mom also chooses to not believe in headship and other garbage as she does her own research. But shunning is ok with her. ;)

  Often, people with more money are the ones who have more ability to pick and choose what they believe, and take stands against certain things and have an easier time with it than JWs with less financial means.
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  Sparlock: The Sociology of the former Jehovah’s Witness community

  by Las Malvinas son Argentinas in

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  thewatchtower bible and tract society has unwittingly unleashed quite a viral sensation within the ranks of its former members.

  to summarise what has happened so far:- become jehovahs friend dvd is released.

  it is an animated feature aimed at children with modern computerised graphics.- the antagonist of the relatively brief cartoon is a self-described warrior wizard by the name of sparlock which was obtained by caleb, the young subject of this material.- the unnamed mother in this dvd guilt-trips young caleb into disposing of his sparlock toy.- the video goes viral within the ex-jw community, with youtube videos being posted of the video.

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  I just asked my kids if they had seen it at their dad's house. They said no. Thank goodness for now!
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  Who or what are you most angry at, when it comes to your situation in relation to JW Org?

  by BreathoftheIndianNose in

  1. jw
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  i've been receiving very bitter messages from jws i know, mostly my mother, but also others that know how to contact me electronically.

  sometimes i find myself mad at her, though not displaying it.

  but i know it's really not her or my fathers fault.

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  I am over the theocratic lies, the false doctrine part. I am more angry that I don't have a relationship with my sister. I am baffled that my smart mother clings to this. I don't think that I have had closure on the sister and mom part. We have never spoken about my decision to leave. It just slowly went silent on the other end.
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  If you were raised in a home with a JW parent and a non-JW parent: a few questions

  by Lady Lee in

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  2. beliefs

  if you were raised in a home with a jw parent and a non-jw parent: a few questions.. i am going to be addressing the international cultic studies association (icsa) in july at the conference in montreal.

  my focus is on 3 groups.

  the third group consists of people people who grew up in homes where one parent was a jw and the other wasn't.

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  mamalove

  My mother was a JW. Dad left when I was 5. They divorced at that point and lived in seperate homes. (Not sure if this exactly meets your criteria).

  Major religious fights. My mother was incredibly forceful and won the religious war at that time and raised us as JW.

  We did celebrate holiday's and basically had two lives. One with mom, very strict, somewhat indimidating. One with dad, much happier, free to be ourselves, no judgement kind of thing.

  Yes it definitely had a major effect. I am no longer speaking to my JW mother, her choice not mine. My father and I have a great relationship. My children see the hypocrisy too.

  I have been to a few therapy sessions, and they have been very helpful. I still struggle occasionally to put things in perspective that is not tainted with JW thoughts. It took a couple of years to really work it out in my head.

  I pity my mother and am very angry with her too. She has basically made my thoughts of JW's even worse than they probably are. I think because I know for a fact she is extremely intelligent. I find it hard to believe she never found doubts and researched it. My guess is she probably did, and just summed it up in her head that this is the truth and men have interpreted things wrong, but she is going to serve Jehovah and be a good person. She kind of picks and chooses what she wants to believe. Like the headship thing, yeah not so much. But she sure believes in shunning.

  I could go on and on about this. For someone going through a purge or cleanse from childhood scars, I think the most important thing is to somehow let go of the anger. Accept things that you cannot change and make yourself a happy life as best you can.