no, waiting. I am serious.
One of the elders that was on my committee went to high school with me. I had SEEN her skipping school with several different boys and I also knew for a fact that she was pregnant. Her father did not know that at the time of my judicial meeting, but he found out later and told my mother that he was sorry for what that committee did to me. His daughter did not even get reproved.
A girl who used to be my best friend skipped school the day before graduation with her boyfriend (from another congregation) and she called me up later to tell me how great the sex had been. Then she asked me to buy her a pregnancy test three weeks later because she was scared to do it herself. She was acting really weird because she was afraid she was pregnant too, and her mother caught on. Soon she was in front of the elders and what did she do? Tell them that she was sorry but that she thought it was okay because she saw me at the movies with some friends at school. Not only did they buy this load of crap, they called me into a meeting for that. I told them that it was rediculous to accuse me of being the reason my friend was sleeping around, adn they agreed.
Around this time it came out that this girl's mother had been sleeping with another (married) brother in the congregation for FOURTEEN YEARS. Neither of them were even reproved either.
Another elder in teh cong. had two daughters, the youngest of whom ended up pregnant from a boy at school that same year, and her older sister was sleeping with a boy from another congregation (she told me as much herself).
So you see, I was not lying when I said everybody else was having sex. I had sex once. it was not planned, I felt horrible about it, and I said as much. I said that if I could go back and change it, I would never do it. Luckily he had a condom and I did not run teh risk of getting pregnant, so I was lucky. But they said because HE had had a condom in his wallet, that it was "premeditated" and that I was unrepentant because I would not tell them whether or not he was circumcised or whether I had had an orgasm.
But the main topic of our discussion that evening was whether I was demonized because I have a certain defect (or something) in my sight which allows me to see "energy" or something resembling auras around people and animals (and some plants) I do not know why I see these things, but I have since I was a child. I don't know really what this is or why I see it, but I know that it is not demons! Doctors have compared it to the Keynesian auras that have been photographed. (This is a medical phenomenon, not demonic possession, jeez!!)
THAT is what I was DF'd for, because I steadfastly denied them details and because I had questions they could not answer (such as if the Society is from God, why can;t we read anything it doesn;t write? If it were right, it could stand up to criticism, right?) and they thought I was demonized and just would not admit it.
So there you have it-- I just thought that needed a little clarification.
--B.