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  I am still a green blob!

  by GrandmaJones in

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  i have followed everyone's advice.

  i went to the gravatar site.

  i registered, got an email with a link to active my account, clicked on the link, got a further response that i was registered, went to my new account, yes they had me under my email,emptied my "cache", i chose a picture, gave it a g rating, and confirmed my photo and email together.

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  GrandmaJones

  Thanks, good idea!
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  For those still trapped in the cult, be careful with your sanity

  by TastingFreedom in

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  i relate to your pain and suffering.

  you remind me of the struggle i had for over a year, where i was pushing myself to go the meetings and even gave public talks because of friends and family, even when i knew it was all bullshit.

  i was so sick to my stomach, that i literally felt like puking during the meetings.

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  GrandmaJones

  Great post, and great comments. I don't want to change the topic of this thread, but I wish that easy reader would start his own. Perhaps others have ideas to help. I am worried for you EasyReader.
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  Something a JW Told Me A While Back

  by mentallyfree31 in

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  a jw told me a while back as i was leaving - "you will never find friends in the world that are like those in the organiation".. i smiled to myself and thought "god, i hope not".

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  lol.

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  GrandmaJones

  Those "we missed you the other night" comments are designed to fill you with guilt I think. Not everybody means it that way, but most do.

  I so completely agree. I am envious that you smile inside. Remarks like that are kindling a little secret anger on my part. You have such good self control.
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  I am still a green blob!

  by GrandmaJones in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have followed everyone's advice.

  i went to the gravatar site.

  i registered, got an email with a link to active my account, clicked on the link, got a further response that i was registered, went to my new account, yes they had me under my email,emptied my "cache", i chose a picture, gave it a g rating, and confirmed my photo and email together.

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  GrandmaJones

  Oh yes, I cleaned my browser. And my computer is set to erase history at the close of each session. My computer automatically restarts every night because of automatic updates.

  I don't know what else to do... ( and I use In-Private to be at this site, I learned that from a poster here)
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  Hi Everyone! My introduction.

  by cherrypye in

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  i am a former dub, born and raised and left at the age of 18. i was baptised at nine, aux pioneer, regular pioneer and around 16 started to see the light.

  my parents give me the heave-ho the day i hit 18 (at midnight, to be precise.

  ) i was marked at 17 for dating a "worldly".

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  GrandmaJones

  See? I learned something about Black Sheep. Perhaps you could use his excellent approach in the future. I really liked that. It would be hard for any parent to answer.
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  Hi Everyone! My introduction.

  by cherrypye in

  1. jw
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  i am a former dub, born and raised and left at the age of 18. i was baptised at nine, aux pioneer, regular pioneer and around 16 started to see the light.

  my parents give me the heave-ho the day i hit 18 (at midnight, to be precise.

  ) i was marked at 17 for dating a "worldly".

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  GrandmaJones

  Baptized at nine, it really puts the children in a headlock right away. We have been encouraged to help our children become unbaptized publishers very, very young as well. Now they can announce (Blah,Blah) is not longer an unbaptized publisher....a humiliation at the very ages that young people are dealing with issues of self esteem.

  Parents kicking you out at midnight at eighteen. God. Truly, truly awful. Very kind on your part to rekindle the relationship. Before you talk to your mom, perhaps you should read the books on cult thinking. I have ordered one. My family, although believers, and regular meeting attenders, are very liberal for the most part in their beliefs. Actually, they could get disfellowshipped for some of their opinions. I know who I can approach honestly, and who I will need the cult book for certain. One or two of them, I really don't have high hopes for.

  I digress. Sorry. Getting old. If I ever start talking about my blood pressure and bowels, please cut me off at the knees!

  Anyway, keep posting, read the books, and keep us up to date. Your experiences are meaningful to the rest of us. Thank you so much for sharing your story, and let us know of your progress. Please share your experiences and thoughts!
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  Has there, or are there any normal pro-WT members on this forum? As in mentally stable, anybody?

  by miseryloveselders in

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  first off, forgive me if i'm guilty of being judgemental.

  i got my own fair share of mental problems.

  it goes without saying that a bunch of us on this forum are misfits and freaks.

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  GrandmaJones

  I think that maybe the Pro JW's who actually post here are probably the most "zealous" and maybe most have been to this point, with exceptions, been a tad off,...but let me add this, I was still active, never, and I mean never, missed meetings or field service, and was still pretty much a believer about most things, (just not everything) and I almost stopped lurking and just pushed down my feelings again. I am glad I keep reading, that I read Crisis of Conscience, some of the most serious threads about the history of the organization, etc. but it was very off-putting to hear some comments. I realize now that many have had such terrible experiences with the organization that they are emotional and vehement in their denunciation. I just have to point out that many of the regularly perjorative terms, such as "Wittlessnes" etc, so made me feel attacked, even though I had not posted, and so certainly were not directed at me but still....

  It is obviously not the objective and purpose in the postings to convert others; it is a vehicle to speak openly and with full opportunity to vent whatever feelings a person may have. I just wanted to mention how I felt.

  Don't anybody take it personally, (ha,ha,ha) that was my turn to vent.
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  I WAS CAUGHT emailing a pdf copy of the New Elders Book

  by Smoky in

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  i sent a .pdf to a few friends and one of them betrayed me and forward it to a elder i know, along with the emails of the recipients.

  i cant believe i was so naive to think that i can trust someone..stupid.

  i have not talked to the "benedict arnold" yet, but hopefully soon.

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  GrandmaJones

  Whew! I have been following this thread. I am so glad that, so far, so good!
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  I am still a green blob!

  by GrandmaJones in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have followed everyone's advice.

  i went to the gravatar site.

  i registered, got an email with a link to active my account, clicked on the link, got a further response that i was registered, went to my new account, yes they had me under my email,emptied my "cache", i chose a picture, gave it a g rating, and confirmed my photo and email together.

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  GrandmaJones

  I have followed everyone's advice. I went to the Gravatar site. I registered, got an email with a link to active my account, clicked on the link, got a further response that I was registered, went to my new account, yes they had me under my email,emptied my "cache", I chose a picture, gave it a G rating, and confirmed my photo and email together. Now I have waited for days to let it take effect. I have gone back to the website and it shows my pic and correct email and offers another email address if I want to. I don't know what else I can do. I know I used the right email account since I saved the email from Simon (Jwn) confirming my addition to the board.

  I am frustrated. Anything I have forgotten that could cause this problem?
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  yeah that makes sense

  by will_the_apostate in

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  a little while back my siblings and i (one jw two exjw's) had and intervention for my mother (jw) because she nearly killed herself by abusing her perscription medicine.

  like most addicts she denied that she had a problem and refused to get help, so my sister, brother, and i all restricited our contact with her as agreed until she would get help.

  my mother turned to her local elders (she is inactive, only because she doesn't like to leave her house, she still believes) and sent them after my sister and i. i haven't been to a meeting since 2006, i am married to a non jw (oh the shame) and celebrate holidays, the elders show up at my house unannounced and start brow beating me in the most christian way about respecting my parents and (this is hiliarious) tell me that just because i don't agree with everything she does (they also tell me that she needs all her pills because of her pain) doesn't mean i can cut off association with her because it isn't scriptual... i couldn't help myself i laughed outloud.

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  GrandmaJones

  Yes, WTAA, I do think that Mad Sweeny has given a very good reason to resume relations with your mom. Is all her medication for pain? Your remark that she can't make herself leave the house makes me wonder if she doesn' have agrophobia in some small way. How severe is that problem? Could she be seeing a doctor who is prescribing some kind of OCD drugs? I just wondered....