Posts by lil.lady.03

See my dad is df’d. he’s been df’d all my life. He got df’d a year before I was born. For 25yrs he has been on the “outs” with the WTS. My mom who is still active raised my brother and me alone in the truth. They divorced when I was 3yrs old.

Yet, he thinks very much like a typical elder; A BIG OL’HYPOCRITE! Idk what rank and file my dad had, but the conversation I just had with him last night, you’d think he’s on the GOV body.

This ol hypocrite had the nerve to call me at 11pm right before bed to tell me I’m not in my proper place?? Excuse me?

Since I have a world boyfriend - who is the worst of the worst according to him because he was in the US army directly under Satan’s control-I’m falling into the clutches of the devil and his mechanisms? What?

And he proceeded to tell me my relationship will not last. It’ll be over in six months flat. I will be left by him and on my ass out in the cold. And since I’m so dumb, I will pregnant soon, and the guy will be long gone.

WTF???

Please understand I hardly see me dad; haven’t seen him in person in two years, just phone calls here and there. He lives pretty far, but this past Sunday he came to visit my older brother and I. Well just like the typical dead-beat dad that he has proven to be, he didn’t call to say whether or not he was coming. Well being the adult I am I made plans with my boyfriend and left. But surprise, surprise he did show up; however I was already gone.

I get back home around 11pm or so because I had to get ready for work. My dad is still at OUR house. He looked me up and down; I say hello and hug him; and that’s about it. I go to bed.

The whole basis of his phone call was tell me on that day when I came home, I had looked like I had been f*cking all afternoon. I looked wild. I looked dead in the eyes. My hair was all crazy. He could see how deplorable my life is now because I left the truth?

O….M…G

I had been walking all day. My boyfriend lives in the city. We walk everywhere or take public transportation. I was tired from a fun-filled day. And no, actually we hadn’t had any relations that day because we didn’t have time.

I asked where he gets the audacity to speak to me that way. He said, “I’m your dad.”

I said, “I don’t give a f*ck who you are. You do not speak to me that way.

He said, “Someone has to put you in your place. You think you are a princess. Ain't no princesses in my family. Nobody is setting you straight. Everybody is letting you do what you want. I’m going to tell you what’s going to happen to you!’

I was livid!! I turned into Incredible Hulk!!! I went off on him. I have never, ever, ever cursed anyone out. NEVER!

I can’t remember everything. I kind of blacked out.

Only thing I remember him saying was that he is going to be the one who told me so. He never wants to meet my boyfriend and I need to go to the elders and get denounced the right way. I

Today I feel so sad. I cried. I cursed out my own father? Who does that? My mom said I should have just hung up the phone in his face.

I do believe you’re supposed to honor your father and mother, but he had no right to speak to me like that. I kept asking him, how does he know that my relationship is going to fail. What evidence does he have? Why can’t he see I’m happy just living my life? He couldn’t respond to that at all.

He kept saying I’m making the worst decision ever, and I will regret it. I’ll be begging to sit back in the kingdom hall. That I’m really not happy and I will suffer all the consequence. He even went on to say HE doesn’t wasn’t to speck to ME?!!

I’m beyond angry. I’m beyond hurt. I can’t wrap my head around him. I can’t understand how my own father would say such negative things to me. Especially trying to get all holy since HE IS DISFELLOWSHIPED?!

What a douche bag. He’s dead to me now. Esp since he getting all high and mighty. He even said he’s going trying to go meeting now, because I’m messing up. He’s really dead to me.

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Need help making NON JW Friends. LOL!!

by lil.lady.03 in

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so its been a whomping 5 months since i stopped going to the meetings!!

yay!!!.

and its amazing how quickly i have let go of everything!!.

lil.lady.03

thanks everybody!

DGP you brought up some points that I had never thought about. I know I still do have the "us. vs. them" mentality. Even wih my bf, I try to explain to him that I think it would be easier to have friends that have gone through the same situation. He says he doesn't think so; that I should just be myself. I tell him that it feels like in high school when you are the new kid and everybody already has their set own friends, so why would they add you; the awkward kid with glasses. I do have to get over that hurdle. Cuz I do feel if I mention my background ppl will give me a side-eye kinda look.

But a cool thing happened today. I gave a coworker a ride home from work and he brought up the topic of religion.

We both had some interesing viewpoints about things and he told me he was raised as a buddhist.

I would have never guessed, I said, "Hmmm...that explains it! You've always seemed so different."

It was a funny moment for me, because ususally that is what people say to JWs. LOL. He is a nice guy to talk to and I have noticed that now I can talk about religion without guilty into making a "witness product placement"

AAHHHH!!! TO BE FREE!!!!

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Need help making NON JW Friends. LOL!!

by lil.lady.03 in

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friends

so its been a whomping 5 months since i stopped going to the meetings!!

yay!!!.

and its amazing how quickly i have let go of everything!!.

lil.lady.03

whew! bad internet connection.

thanks broken promises. I was wonderingif there was a way or a possibility that old former JWs ever met up withone another.

Its such a limbo state that we are in sinc ewe have left. Not to many non JWs get what it feels like. Thank you for the advice.

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Need help making NON JW Friends. LOL!!

by lil.lady.03 in

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friends

so its been a whomping 5 months since i stopped going to the meetings!!

yay!!!.

and its amazing how quickly i have let go of everything!!.

lil.lady.03

So its been a whomping 5 months since I stopped going to the meetings!! YAY!!!

And Its amazing how quickly I have let go of everything!!

Only thing I am having an issue with is friends.

Like really really, my friends I did have were pretty liberal JW as they come.We'd go to clubs and drinkall night and party party party!! We'd watch Rated R movies without even blinking an eyelash from corcern.

Yet they are very, very, very much intuned to the org. Out of all of us, I've always been the quiet one who goes with the flow. But now Its me stepping up and moving on with my life and living it how I want. It is a group of us girls and everyone says: "I'd rather be struggling and hanging on weak in the org than out of it all together." Hmph! I do not like that. So I have dramatically distanced myself. BUT I MISS MY FRIENDS!!!

I tried to have a girls night last week. We started talking about me and where I am with everything. It was intense. We didn't flat out argue, just was a honest open discussion. And I know my honest statements about "the truth" was not taken well. For every statement they had, I had a viewpoint or rebuttal. It felt as if I was in college talking to a kindergarter. I love them all dearly but I know they don't want to hang out with me, and frankly I don't want too as much anymore.

And I know the path that I am on is different from theirs now, even if they are worldy witnesses. I just wonder how do I go about making new friends. Like I consider them like sisters. I don't have any fleashly sisters. It just kinda sucks. Anyone have any advice?

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Any suggestions for a birthday gift. 1st time. (hee hee)

by lil.lady.03 in

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so my bf's birtday is tomorrow.

he says i don't have to get anything and since i'm a jw he won't press me to do anthing.

but i'm like screw thatm i want to get him somethign just because!.

lil.lady.03

ok, thanks soldier 77 I was thinking the watch idea was nice. BUT NEVERMIND! It does seem wack once you say it out loud.

I'm thinking about a gift pass to indoor sky diving?

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Any suggestions for a birthday gift. 1st time. (hee hee)

by lil.lady.03 in

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friends

so my bf's birtday is tomorrow.

he says i don't have to get anything and since i'm a jw he won't press me to do anthing.

but i'm like screw thatm i want to get him somethign just because!.

lil.lady.03

yeah, I'm a lil on the tight end as far as funds, but he's worth it.

How many gifts do people usually give r get? It ain't chirtmas so I'm not tryna go ALL out. LOL

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Any suggestions for a birthday gift. 1st time. (hee hee)

by lil.lady.03 in

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friends

so my bf's birtday is tomorrow.

he says i don't have to get anything and since i'm a jw he won't press me to do anthing.

but i'm like screw thatm i want to get him somethign just because!.

lil.lady.03

horrible broter DAN!! Just horrible. HAHAHAHAAHA!

too bad we're passed that chapter ;)

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Any suggestions for a birthday gift. 1st time. (hee hee)

by lil.lady.03 in

jw
friends

so my bf's birtday is tomorrow.

he says i don't have to get anything and since i'm a jw he won't press me to do anthing.

but i'm like screw thatm i want to get him somethign just because!.

lil.lady.03

here's what I'm thinking so far.

get a ipod nano and make an ultimate play list of some of his favorite songs (AND MINE, LOL)

buy a really cool watch or hat.

bake some cookies and monogram his intials on it. One cookie for every year.

A gift card or passes to somewhere.

Does that sound dorky?

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Any suggestions for a birthday gift. 1st time. (hee hee)

by lil.lady.03 in

jw
friends

so my bf's birtday is tomorrow.

he says i don't have to get anything and since i'm a jw he won't press me to do anthing.

but i'm like screw thatm i want to get him somethign just because!.

lil.lady.03

So my bf's birtday is tomorrow. I really don't know what to get him. he says I don't have to get anything and since I'm a jw he won't press me to do anthing. But I'm like screw thatm I want to get him somethign just because!

Any suggestions from guys on what a cool b-day gift could. In class I asked one of my classmates.

I told her it was my 1st time buying a b-day present ever and that I'm so lost.

She looked at me funny and said, "oh? You mean first time buying a gift for HIM?"

She didn't get it. LOL

Any sugesstions?

And since holiday season is coming up, how has everbody handled that whole issue?