Terry wrote: " Our strongest emotions follow our strongest values. When we say we "love" we are following what we value as the highest possible."
I write: Our strongest values follow our strongest emotions. Either you love or you don't. Otherwise it is a pretend, founded in other motives.
JW's pretend to uphold love as the highest "value". I find this to be complete nonsens. Love is a emotion not a value. Upholding LIFE is a value, a value one can love. If one doesn't love this value, it will fall short when tested. Unless a primal core are connected to the make-belief value.
Survival is a primal instinct. Eating is a primal instinct. Sex is a primal instinct. Breathing is a primal instinct. Motherhood is a primal instinct.
Loyality facing death, fasting, celibacy, breath control and child sacrifice are all attempts to control the primate within us.
Religion most often deals with this. By supressing one primal instinct, another is strengthened. Push one button down, another goes up. And the "victims" base personality are seemingly altered. All this religion seeks to control through theory. An imaginary world in which one needs to adapt. The "build" from here is all pretence and behaviour. If enough joins this imagery, a sense of reality is strenghtened. It can drive people crazy if the religion is into high control.
JW connects love with survival. Hope to see your loved ones again? Then survive. If you obey, you might survive. If you are loyal even when facing death, you might survive. If your child dies while being loyal, it might survive (motherhood+survival, not child sacrifice!).
So when being "loyal facing death", a JW is not surpressing an instinct. It is succumbing to it. It is thrown into a state of instinctal panic where it will grasp the solution it knows to seek safety. When ignorant only few options are readily availible in the moment. The doctors recommendation vs the Org.'s pre-instructed "solutions". Some elders will then come and "help save the life" by "siding" with the parents against the "threat" from the doctors solution.
Yes, it is a "binary" choice (illusion), but it is only possible to maintain this illusion by linking it to a strong instinctal fear (through theory). The parents (and the child) are in a state of instinctal panic while in the fase of choice. If they weren't, they would dismiss those crazy elders and see them for the dangerous frauds they obviously (to all else) are.
If the parents openly rejects the elders "help", they would reject the imaginary world or rather; have liberated themselves from the imaginary threat and started to relate to the real one. That will make them "dangerous" having in the congo, as a part of the "formula" is to maintain the sense of reality to the imagery by isolating the social network to people who accept the imagery.
Again, there MUST be some primal instinct connected to get the followers to accept the controlled instruction. Else they will soon reject it.
I find it highly immoral to toy with people in this way, but it is unfortunately not that uncommon.
NB: We are "social animals". Some claim this is primal instinct also.