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  2 year into my fade, where I'm at...

  by gutted in

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  well it's been exactly 2 years and 2 weeks since the night where i investigated (googled) as much about jws as i could after being born and raised in the cult till my mid 20s.

  it took just one all nighter to completely demolish all of the doctrines and bullshit of the religion.

  basically after that i went to one more convention and have not stepped into a kingdom hall since.

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  My story is very similar to yours. It's been just over 2 years since I left, and they have defintely been the roughest years of my life. It's great your fade is successful and you're still on speaking terms with your family.

  I tried a few therapists, and have finally found one I really like. She's super helpful and is great at uncovering issues and helping me improve them. Not being able to experiment and have fun as a teenager and make "mistakes" in my 20s is something I wish I would have been able to do, but unfortunately never got a chance. But I can make my life fun now.

  Tomorrow night I'll be doing a Burlesque performance for charity! I've signed up for fitness classes and have met some really nice people. It's difficult putting yourself out there when you're shy and lack confidence, but I think doing crazy things will help me gain confidence.

  As for friends, I'm lucky to have reconnected with a long lost friend who left the JWs as a teen. It's so nice being able to share your weird past with someone who understands.
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  How Did/Has the WTBTS Affected Your Social Skills?

  by ABibleStudent in

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  good or bad?

  how did/has the wtbts affected your social skills, social development, and/or how you interact with other people?

  i have many questions about different social skills that i will ask either after other people post to this thread or to keep this thread active.

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  Basically born-in, I suck at communicating, am shy, self-conscious, submissive, don't trust people, and am anti social. I blame part of this on my upbringing. My parents never had anyone over and we rarely went to witness gatherings. Luckily I had really nice friends at school, although I wasn't allowed to spend time with them after school hours.

  I am proud of both my children who are somehow really confident and social! I hope they stay that way.
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  Did you keep any of your old JW paraphernalia?

  by i_drank_the_wine in

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  for those of us who have made the clean break, did you keep any of your old jw stuff?

  books, "service" bag, etc?.

  i didn't keep a shred myself.

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  Nope. I kept my personalized Bble for awhile with my baptism date in it, but I threw it out to have a clean break. I don't want my children to stumble across that crap.
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  Anyone going to the KH Sunday to comment on the domestic violence paragraph?

  by serenitynow! in

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  2. friends

  they are doing that article about sister selma getting the crap beat out of her to win her husband over to being a jw.

  any suggestions as to the comment i should make?

  i was thinking about bringing up the old awake on domestic violence and ask if there has been new light and that women should stay with their abusers..

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  Do you think they will allow anyone to comment on this paragraph, or just prearranged a few select members to make comments that stick to the paragraph and quickly move on?
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  Movies with the best endings ever

  by usualusername in

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  discuss....

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  Nice_Dream

  Shakespeare in Love -

  "You will never age for me, nor fade, nor die." "She will be my heroine for all time." So romantic!
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  For all the newbies.. the Belief-O-Matic...what religion should you be? Test your religious beliefs.

  by jemba in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i noticed that this thread has been done before by blacksheep but i loved doing this test and i loved the results i got... apparently i need to look into reformed judaism.

  jemba .

  sorry firefox wont let me cut n paste but heres the website:.

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  Nice_Dream

  My top 3 are:

  1. Unitarian Universalism (100%)
  2. Secular Humanism (96%)
  3. Liberal Quakers (86%)
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  Children's Generous Donation After Robbery

  by compound complex in

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  dear friends, who own a mom-and-pop store, are struggling with life at its worst right now on several different levels.

  the latest catastrophe to hit is that their little store was robbed of a small fortune in merchandise.

  they are understandably beside themselves, not just for the monetary loss but also for the sense of violation thrust upon their trusting, goodhearted nature.

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  Nice_Dream

  Awwww, that story melts my heart!
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  Male Domination = No Judge Deborah

  by metatron in

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  i had to laugh at today's watchtower, when it spoke of "judge barak".. it's this sort of thing that tells you that their "scholarship" is non-existent.

  the record in judges clearly states that 'deborah was judging israel' - oh, and it repeats the point because 'israel came to her to be judged'.

  ..... brave barak told her he wasn't going into battle unless she went with him.. no judge deborah.

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  Nice_Dream

  I recently learned this when reading a Children's Bible to my son. It has a picture of Judge Deborah, who is described as a "strong leader." I tried to remember how this story was depicted in the My Book of Bible Stories, and instead of showing a strong woman leading the way it has a lovely picture of a bleeding man with a peg through his head.
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  What will happen if I get married in a church?

  by Jude Knorr in

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  Nice_Dream

  Your pictures will look nicer, the Kingdom Hall atmosphere and lighting are horrible.

  "Wordly" people in attendance won't ask you why the man giving the talk was so weirdly focused on condemning confetti and other pagan rituals.

  You might actually like most of the people in attendance.

  If you're worried about getting DF'd, how about a destination wedding or elope? I wish I did!
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  First Aid @ the D.C.s -- could direction from Society cause them a lawsuit?

  by tresdecu in

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  i posted about something similar 3 years ago when i first joined.

  even though my attendance hasn't been great the last year or so, i was asked to help my bro in law in first aid this year at the convention.

  to make a long story short, the society has printed instructions for attendants to not cal 911 for an emergency.

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  Nice_Dream

  Right, I think I remember hearing about this. They didn't want too many people calling 911, and sometimes an ambulance was called that wasn't needed and it was an expense. If they are so concerned about money, they should have properly trained First Aid attendants there, not trainees.

  I know 3 brothers who were Ambulance attendants by profession, and because they weren't "spiritual enough," they were not asked to be first aid attendants at the conventions. They even offered and were declined. Instead, young JWs with little experience were in charge. I remember going to the First Aid section and got a deer in headlights response from the young adults working there.

  Fortunately, I think family members of someone in a medical emergency would call 911 instead of relying on the attendants...at least I hope so!