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  Argument with my Child "Why did I stay in the Organization so long?" Anger and Bitter Feelings.

  by RottenRiley in

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  last night my third oldest child wanted to know why we stayed in the organization so long.

  child is a third year college student enjoying all the classes this "wicked system" has to offer, the insatiable appetite for learning makes him want to argue and debate, i don't have the energy to debate because i don't feel good with all life has thrown our way.. .

  "the only reason i went to meetings so long was because grandma and grandpa needed somebody to take them to meetings and cobe aunt and uncle and secretary aunt and uncle refused to talk to grandma for years, otherwise i would have stopped attending the kingdom hall because the kids were assholes and i was always the one who had to make "first contact", "i was the one who had to go around and meet and greet newbies while the regular jw wall-flowers (calebs) ignored all the visitors and new persons visiting our kingdom hall.

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  Nice_Dream

  Your child will eventually get over it, it just takes time and perhaps counseling to work through the anger. I left when I was 27, and was bitter for a few years. However, I realize my parents made the choice to be JWs when they had me because they wanted to raise me differently than how they were raised, and hoped to shelter me from drugs, and the crazy lifestyle they previously led. They succeeded in that, and I am grateful for how my life turned out, despite some of the issues of being raised a Witness.

  However, I also realize that everyone has problems. There is no perfect life, or perfect way to raise a child. Being raised as an atheist or different religion wouldn't have protected me from experiencing hurt in my life. I would have had different experiences, but still would have had difficulties to work through as well.

  If your child is upset about not playing sports, perhaps they can play drop-in sports now. Or maybe they just felt isolated, and need to work through that. Other people feel lonely or like outcasts too, despite not being raised as a JW.

  My parents apologized once to me, and that was enough. They were just doing what they felt was right at the time, and had my best interests at heart.

  One day, when your child has children of their own, they might understand better. Don't be too hard on yourself! There is still time to enjoy life to the fullest.
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  Faders- if I can do it, you can do it too!

  by dissonance_resolved in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hi all- haven't posted much lately but i wanted to check in and give an update on my fade.

  all of the advice i've received here has been spot on so far!

  phase i is complete- i'm completely inactive, no service or meetings in a few months.

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  I hope you guys are able to move! And then you can celebrate the holidays next year without a worry. I wish you all the best on your job interviews. It sounds like you are doing well.

  My dream is to move this coming year to shed that yucky feeling of being watched. I ran into 4 JWs at Target Boxing Day, and had to hide the Christmas decorations in my cart! It would be so nice to not worry about what they would think if they did see holiday decorations.

  all the best in 2014!
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  Graphic violence against a Jehovah's Witness in the name of entertainment

  by Debbie Klick in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  a so called friend of mine sent me this link to a music video.. the song seems to be ridiculing jehovah's witness's and their practise.. but more disconcerting is the visual content, which actually shows the assault and murder of a jehovah's witness.. i can appreciate there is an element of humour involved, but find it in pretty poor taste.. and in no way a positive message to the populace and for the safety of jehovah's witness's in general.. .

  http://youtu.be/huzs3c9wf98.

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  I liked how the JW was fed to the dogs from the window...very ironic. It kind of reminded me of the Jezebel story.
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  Ladies, How Big Is Your Diamond Engagement Ring?

  by minimus in

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  2. friends

  i notice a trend that suggests that many ladies either have a one carat or bigger diamond ring or much smaller if any.. do you have a diamond ring and if you do, what size carat is it?

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  I really love my engagement ring. It's a Canadian diamond, .33 carat. My husband designed the ring so the diamond is inset, and it has a small sapphire on the side of the ring. And I have an anniversary band that's 1 carat, with 10 diamonds which I also love...as well as the man who gave them to me. :)
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  Remembrance Day

  by Nice_Dream in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  being raised as a jw, i didnt pay much attention to remembrance day.

  i didnt agree with war, why would i commemorate it?

  but i always felt disrespectful when i declined to wear a poppy like everyone else.

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  Fulltimestudent - Those are very horrible injuries. :( It's very sad to hear and read about those who are still being effected by war.

  Phizzy - I still don't like war either, but like you, I am now more respectful of those who do and did fight instead of not thinking about them.

  I was a bit late posting yesterday, but I am still so thankful I got to learn about some people in my family history. That is something we wouldnt have discussed or paid much attention to as a JW. I even found War Diaries online and was able to read about the days leading up to my Great Great Grandfather's death.

  Thank you for the comments everyone.
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  Remembrance Day

  by Nice_Dream in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  being raised as a jw, i didnt pay much attention to remembrance day.

  i didnt agree with war, why would i commemorate it?

  but i always felt disrespectful when i declined to wear a poppy like everyone else.

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  Being raised as a JW, I didnt pay much attention to Remembrance Day. I didnt agree with war, why would I commemorate it? But I always felt disrespectful when I declined to wear a poppy like everyone else. Most of my friends had Grandfathers and Great Grandfathers who fought in WW1 or WW2 and this was a day for them to remember their family members and the sacrifices they made for our country.

  Today, for the first time, I asked my Grandmother to tell me about her Father who served in WW2. She told me his name, and how he left his wife and 4 young children behind to land on the beaches of Normandy. And about how he was injured in Italy and was stuck in the mud up to his neck for days before he was found and came home with shrapnel in his spine. The doctors were afraid he'd be paralyzed if they removed it.

  And I learned about my Great Great Grandfather, who served in World War 1, and was killed near Passchendaele where he was shelled down while building a water supply line. He is buried in Belgium with thousands of others.

  Today, I am thankful to be free from the Watchtower. I am so thankful for all those who serve and have served. And I am proud to remember.
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  What I’m Listening to Right Now / Playlist

  by KiddingMe in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i am listening to roar by katy perry right now .

  i listen to it several times a day as a pick me up.

  this song is so motivating and empowering.

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  Demons is one of my fav songs! I also have been listening to the Neighbourhood. I like their whole album, but really like their songs "Afraid," "Sweater Weather," and "Float." Afraid has explicit lyrics for those with sensitive ears. :)

  I also love that song you posted J. Hoffer.
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  My adorable 5 year son explaining the meaning of life

  by jwfacts in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i asked my son quite randomly before bed what he thinks the meaning of life is.

  like always, his answer brought a smile to my face.

  he said, "to have a great time .. to have fun and have friends ... and be happy.

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  That is so sweet!
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  I Am Addicted To Chocolate ! ! !

  by Stauros in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  what is your favorite type of chocolate?

  (a little off the topic of religion in order to relax my mind).

  estephan.

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  Me too! I love dark chocolate. I buy a giant bar of President's Choice extra dark chocolate and eat at least a square a day. :) I also like the Lindor truffle balls.

  Lisa- what a sweet story! Those must be great brownies.
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  why am i still single?

  by redpilllizard81 in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  i have the hardest time meeting singles in the "world".

  currently inactive.

  but my dating situation is sort of in limbo and its driving me mad..

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  I just read a book called "Marry Him, the Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough." Even though you're a guy, it might be interesting to skim through it for the online dating tips which seemed pretty useful. The lady in the book is 40 and single. She hired a dating coach, goes to meet guys at speed dating events and online and is having difficulty because all the guys are getting snatched up.

  Don't worry about your lack of dating history, it won't be problem for the right person. Get yourself out there and you'll find someone soon enough!