Nice post, good thoughts. The JWS is a 19 century religion and children back then were expected to be seen but not heard. Women as well and really nothing has changed with the JW's. They don't understand how their human resources should be treated. The Bethel stories we hear on this site and Freeminds make that point.
I wasn't a born in so I had a normal life up to age 13, birthdays, Christmas, school friends, no meetings. Then for the next 10 years I was a JW, it wasn't my choice, then for a while it was my choice, then I met my wife and after a while we decided to walk away. We had both experienced a life before becoming a JW and didn't want to raise our child as a witness.......... of course it helped that we never really believed most of the crap they taught.
At this time I don't really know the mind set of born-ins. How or When the 'awakening' takes place that allows them to walk away. I suspect that the unchanging banality of JW beliefs and the meetings must contribute to the dissatisfaction. As well as the resentment of a restricted childhood. No after school contacts, no higher education, wasting time in service. The embarassment factor growing up, the flag issue, music issues, party issues , lack of school sports, forbidden to join the Boy Scouts, knocking on a school mates doors in service....................I always felt that I was playing on a losing team. Finally getting out was a relief.
I also wonder if born-ins see the religion differently then converts and if that isn't part of the process.
I also think that if members were allowed to step away without fear of shunning that half of the witnesses would fade out.