I think it's possible to live a full and productive life as a dub, and it's possible to be happy. I've seen enough examples. The one thing that really pisses me off is when they 'encouraged' everyone to not get married and have children 'in this system of things'. I used to know a blind old sister in her 90's, who never married, and never even kissed a boy as a teenager. she maintained that she wouldn't have it any other way. I have to say she was the most bubbly, joyful old person I have ever met. her enthusiasm was infectious. She was such a nice person. It's such a pity she never married or had kids. I feel these people really had something stolen from them for the sake of a wicked doctrine.
Condolences to you, Magwitch. It's good to reflect on a person's happy life. It eases the pain.