Posts by 3dogs1husband

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I think I've planted a seed!

by OneDayillBeFree in

i could be wrong, but i can't help but be a bit optimistic.last night my parents and i had our "family worship night".

i hate it, and i believe my mother does too.

my dad only does it because he's an elder but last night even he was acting like he didnt want to do it.

Just realized I hadn't posted my story here yet

by Newly Enlightened in

i've been so busy on other subjects and other people's interesting stories that i had not noticed that i had not posted my story on this forum yet.

kind of boring.

the usual.

the mormons are advertising on here

by bigmac in

i appreciate it probably wont be on everyones screen,---but i had to laugh when an advert for recruits to the mormons appeared at the top..

3dogs1husband

mines all tim hortons - clever add the eyes of the bacon follow your mouse :)

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God Forbid!!!

by Stubborn Disbeliever in

so my husband and i have 2 daughters.

i've always wanted a whole bunch of kids, yes, even being raised a jw.

my grandma is soooo against children.

i want to start by saying i will not participate in discussion here about my resignation as a moderator at jwn.. simon please consider this as my resignation from that position.. i have been posting on this board for almost 12 years.

i know some of you a lot, others a little and some not very well at all.

i have remained here for those of you who have needed support as you make the transition out of the wts, who needed someone to listen to your experiences of abuse at the hands of jehovah's witnesses, and to both laugh and cry with you as you progress out of the watchtower society.. we know that we have all experienced the cruelty of abuse of one kind or another.

3dogs1husband

Wow a dear john letter posted to the boards - nothing to simon first? Lady Lee i hadnt realized it was a good bye this is my last post thread - I thought this was "I am done moderating and ty for our time together thread" Is JWN now being shunned? I was coming on here to wish you well in your journey I dont post much but i do enjoy all you works and reading your words on Freeminds was how i first "met" you, but i feel this is a slap in the face to your "home" for many years - people speak there minds here and are either proven right or wrong as a mode you know this - I really cant believe this. Wow this is sad, I hope you come to post and enjoy some of the threads with us some day

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BUILD IT AND THEY WILL COME.....let's rebuild!

by Terry in

okay we've all beat our chest, lamented and throttled the dead horse of aawa.. time to move on!.

i suggest those of us on j-w.n who care about creating something the right way take the trouble to get the framework going.. let's do the grunt work and get the nattering, debates, naming and organizing already pre-approved so that "others" who have the talent, ability, motivation and resources can move in and turn the key!.

because it was not done before.. there is more wisdom on this discussion board in our vast numbers than there could possibly be in a virtual boardroom with 8 people brain-storming.. that isn't an insult--it is just a statistical fact!.

3dogs1husband

what about targeting ONE kingdom hall?

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BUILD IT AND THEY WILL COME.....let's rebuild!

by Terry in

okay we've all beat our chest, lamented and throttled the dead horse of aawa.. time to move on!.

i suggest those of us on j-w.n who care about creating something the right way take the trouble to get the framework going.. let's do the grunt work and get the nattering, debates, naming and organizing already pre-approved so that "others" who have the talent, ability, motivation and resources can move in and turn the key!.

because it was not done before.. there is more wisdom on this discussion board in our vast numbers than there could possibly be in a virtual boardroom with 8 people brain-storming.. that isn't an insult--it is just a statistical fact!.

3dogs1husband

I am a fader - I DO NOT want to be outed nor do i feel its is ok to violate privacy. But all the fb fiasco as of late I couldnt help to ponder what it would the Org look like if there was a magic IRL button a person could push where all us faders would be outed?

-would any large family group stay intact?

-would whole congragations be disovled?

-entire elder bodies be dismanteled?

- what pertantage of us would be gone?

Personaly i feel it would be HUGE - the power they have to keep us all in fader mode keeps the masses hoping and praying we will be back one day. Soooo......

What is there WAS a day once a year where any who CHOOSE to hand in there letter - or have the "talk" with a mate or family member could ban together for a TTATT DAY!!! Think of the support and the envouragement this could bring to one another. Those out could support and do some activism or education. What a great day it could be!!! I would nominate it to be a Sunday - and those still reg attending could "be sick" and show support for those making the big move. Wouldnt that be great to effect the meeting attendance? - AND have the society KNOW why? Ok enough rambling :)

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BUILD IT AND THEY WILL COME.....let's rebuild!

by Terry in

okay we've all beat our chest, lamented and throttled the dead horse of aawa.. time to move on!.

i suggest those of us on j-w.n who care about creating something the right way take the trouble to get the framework going.. let's do the grunt work and get the nattering, debates, naming and organizing already pre-approved so that "others" who have the talent, ability, motivation and resources can move in and turn the key!.

because it was not done before.. there is more wisdom on this discussion board in our vast numbers than there could possibly be in a virtual boardroom with 8 people brain-storming.. that isn't an insult--it is just a statistical fact!.

3dogs1husband

bookmarking will be back on latter

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Fifth Estate Program in Canada - Former Jehovah's Witness from NH - Whistleblower

by RAYZORBLADE in

tif21 - had posted about the fifth estate (which was great), but i know most people outside of canada, will be unfamiliar with the show and the cbc.. here is the link to last night's program.

it features a young woman who had faced sexual abuse as a jw, and how little to next to nothing was done.

when she finally had enough ... well, you'll see what happens next.

3dogs1husband

that is the first time they spoke to her....this is an update :)

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How can we save this baby?

by Eustace in

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friends

from adchoices:parents looking to adoptloving jehovah's witness couple hoping to adopt a baby.www.parentslookingtoadopt.com

3dogs1husband

these people are in no way trying to adopt a child out of the foster care system or even a group home. As a matter of fact the social workers incharge of those poor kids ...would never place one as adoptive child in the home of a JW. (well an active jw who isnt lying during their homestudy ;) ) If you know a JW who has adopted from the system trust me they know how to speak from two sides of their mouths. The Blood issue is hard to dance around. Let alone the holidays, and dont forget the shunning. The state regularly steps in and protect little jw's all over the country when parents refuse blood...they arent handing over kids to them.

This couple is trying to adopt by having a birth mom choose them in a private placement. This would be a pregnant mom who would pick them over the thousands of other waiting parents out there. They would pay all the fees of a lawyer and and pay an agencey (not a state social worker) social worker to do a homestudy to meet each states requirement to finalize the adoption. The diffrence is in a placement where the birth parent picks you - the social worker does a homestudy to show you are a fit home only, you get a lot more "trump" cards when a bmom chooses you unlike a state social worker. A birth mom choosing them is there only option as real true JW..They need to find a birth mom who doesnt mind all the quirks or doesnt care........like i said before there is no real chance of a baby. You never know they might luck out and find a young girl in service..or a friend might find a troubled pregnant girl out in the ministry.

There are thousands of people waiting for babies and thousands of agencies recruiting pregnant women to place with them......not very likey all those jw quirks will make the cut. I had 4 agencies turn down our request to even become a client (which came with a 10,000 payment) they told us it would not happen...period. And forget international adoption. They gave us no false hope.

The state social workers were nice enough to get together and talk a few times.....those meetings and the questions i had no answers to were the start of my googling the WT. Good times :)

edited to add sometimes if you get a birth family member to "pick" you even when the children are older and in foster care that also can help stack the deck to help a JW adopt... like if bmom is not signing over her rights and is fighting them (or going off to jail) and the poor child is in foster care the state might let her place her child with a Jw family is she choose them...but not always.

I personaly know of a very loving JW hub and wife who were able to find a great state sw they loved and she got them thru a homestudy and a placement of 2 boys thru foster care ( alot of double speak) They were over the moon and so thrilled. But they foolishly moved before their adoption was final (takes about 6 months to one year dependign on where you live) got there file moved to a new office. The new social worker found out they were JW did an interview on the children found out that they had been "spanked" at an assembly (they had signed saying that they would not hit the children - they are only gaurdians till the finalization) and the boys were removed from them. It was soooooo Horrid it was a nightmare...gut wrenching :(