cultBgone,
Maybe there are certain hobbies/activities you enjoy or would like to try....karaoke, sewing, gardening, animal care, boating, yoga, Elvis Presley fan club, or whatever. Here's a website www.meetup.com where you put in your location and search for a group with a particular interest in your area. Put in "sewing" or "jazz" or whatever. OR if you don't have a particular hobby in mind, you can search by location and it'll list all the groups in that area. From that list you might find something that you hadn't thought of before. I got involved in a karaoke group and they meet at different locations on different evenings. I go only when I feel like it; it's not realy a club where you have to attend every meeting. It's just a means to connect with others who share a particular interest.
As for dating, there are sites such as eharmony.com that allow you to screen contacts before meeting them.
I hope these suggestions help.