This is the entire problem with fading summed up here by fayedunaway.... "if you want to fade, you've got to back away from this" Essentially this is saying if you want to fade, you literally have to not be who you want to be. I will not deny anyone their right to fade if that is the way they choose to take but you have had to conform long enough, GTFO and be who YOU want to be! You very well may lose some friends and family but personal freedom IS worth it.
pbrow