1. my husband's time is finite, it's wasted on spouses arguing over money, sex or family mattters with stupid home visits.. .
i hate people's constant open hand for money, it's the weak individuals asking others to pull their weight.
my family worked extra hours instead of begging the strong members for district assembly money, cat food for seven cats or tiny little rag-a-muffins weiner dogs.. .
Welcome, AuntConnie!
I hope this forum helps you even just by letting you vent. By doing so you are also helping lurkers who still partly or fully believe that jws have all this "love amongst themselves".
There are a lot of rough spots in your life. How do you think losing your mother will help with them?
Keep posting and reading, and I sincerely hope things become clearer for you.
Retro
i've been browsing and reading threads here for a while.
i am never a jw, i am in a relationship with an inactive one, who in fact is in the middle (not knowing what to believe anymore).
i have read some of the threads here about stories of those who have experience with jws and mostly ended up hurt but there also some who made it.. and some of the threads/info/works that you all have done here are really great!.
Hello and Speargrass55!
hey,.
i've been lurking on this website for a few years now and finally made an account.
i have serious doubts about the organization in general and still have not made up my mind about what to believe.
Welcome, Nancy
you say I'm constantly learning
That's a great philiosphy, even a life plan. Keep doing that . . and the light will get brighter
Retro
huibers, a christian, used books 6-9 of genesis as his inspiration, following the instructions god gives noah down to the last cubit.
translating to modern measurements, huibers came up with a vessel that works out to a whopping 427 feet (130 meters) long, 95 feet (29 meters) across and 75 feet (23 meters) high.
story here.. .
Perry, are you seriously saying that if sedimentation rate is not constant, this is evidence for a global flood?
ok heres a thought i recently saw, and it floored me!
its something i amazingly never thought of, it seems to be hiding in plain sight.. as we know most if not all plants need insect pollination to live.
without ants, bees, flies etc.. pollinating them, they would not reproduce right?
Hi BU2B, It's all covered in jgnat's post - I'd just point out that since Gen 1 (animals before humans) and Gen 2 (Adam before animals) are contradictory it's a bit difficult to belive the "Genesis account"
Retro
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Welcome, New22day!
So sorry to hear your story. You have been through a lot!
It might help you understand to read some of jgnat'sposts, especially those about her life with her jw husband. I'm a never-jw, but the impression I get is that the jw religion supports cognitive dissonance.
I hope that over time you come to understand that you had a lucky escape. A guy who can simultaneously lie to his partner and his religious mentors can bring you nothing but trouble.
As Mrs Jones said, avoid any further communication with him. Keep busy with whatever you enjoy - or used to enjoy.
Wishing you better times, Retro
seriously, if i am going to stay a jw for now, is there anything wrong with donating all for local kindom hall purposes, and simply not donate to the world wide work (wt)?
i mean, won't the local money just go to the kingdom hall expenses (among some other expenses)?
i'm telling you right now, the wt ain't getting my $ until things change!.
A watcher, perhaps Anais and Sapphira thought they too had a "gentlemans agreement" with YHWH?
hey everybody,.
so i just made an appointment with my therapist (these days i really only see someone when something specific comes up), as i need to discuss the statue of limitations in my state for child sex abuse cases.. i've actually been doing some preliminary work on a book that i'm writing, at the recommendation of a different (previous) therapist and in so doing have been reading the conti transcripts.
i must say, she is quite the inspiration.
Waiting for an appointment is always stressful, OJW!
Welcome, and we'll be thinking of you!
Retro
if u don't mind saying if u r kiwi or aussie, and basic info like m/f, how long in, how long out, or if fading like me.. im female i live in aussie but born in nz fading the last few months.
know it ain't the truth, but am married with little kids and closest family and friends all in.
trying the slow fade and hoping my husband will do the same... being very gentle with him... .
Hi SkyGreen,
I'm a never-jw (friends and family in, "studied" for a year or so but it didn't 'take'). I'm female and in the Melbourne area; raised my children as a single parent. Welcome and good for you to have the courage to question. Your children will thank you for it
Retro
i am just curious, and not judging.
if you are a christian and you know that december 25th is not jesus' birthday, and may have pagan roots, then why celebrate it?
i was raised a dub as most of you know, and have learned the ttatt so i know how wrong they are about a lot.
It's a cultural thing. As for pagan roots - so what? JWs arbitrarily allow some (wedding rings, pinatas) and chuck a fit over others.
