Posts by whathappened

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Sickening Dilemma

by ItsMyLife in

i would like to have your opinions on what i should do about a situation please.. i have recently discovered that a 'brother' in the congregation (which i no longer attend) is a child molester.

i've seen documentation from his psychiatrist dated a few years ago, stating that he doesn't feel that this person is likely to offend again.

the 'brother' has said to the elders at some point that he has it under control but cannot be 100% sure it won't happen again.

whathappened

The little girls have got to come first. They will be in a very vulnerable position. Do whatever it takes.

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i'm a new member & i'd like to say hi to everyone, intoducing myself.. i am a 3rd generation born-in at mid 50's & an active elder.. english is not my mother language, so pls ignore any grammatical errors.

i live in a small country in europe.. i'd like to thank you for all information posted.

some of them have rally helped me to understand and examine again my beliefs.. last new light concerning f&ds=gb has verified the idea that they are popes in the position op pope.. i still believe in god & in his son jesus christ but not in the gb..

whathappened

Welcome to the growing group here on JWN. We want to hear all about you.

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Still Waiting For the Governing Body To Explain Their New Light

by Cameron_Don in

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regarding the governing bodys new light relative to matthew 24:45-47, anointedjw.org recently said the following:.

this new light certainly poses a problem for the governing body.

perhaps this is another reason why they have not yet published a sober and scriptural xplanation of this new light.

whathappened

Your book, "Captives of a Concept" was so instrumental in helping me leave the Watchtower Society. I will be forever grateful to you, Don, you are a hero.

I hope you write another one on the "new light."

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My Jw mother hates me and always has

by 20yearfader in

i just need to vent,you see i was a born in.it's taken me 20 years after fading from the org to finally get my mind free from the wt dogma.i was on the phone with my aunt today and the subject of my mother her older sister came up.now mind you i haven't spoken to my mother in a month or so after my daughter stayed the weekend at her house and she was being tag teamed about the hall and how i took a vow to jehovah and i'm a failure and i'll be destroyed at armagedon.this exchange upset my daughter so much that she was near the point of tears when she returned home and she hasnt spoken to my mother or father since.anyway back to the conversation with my aunt,she let it slip that my mother told her that she wished she had let the seamen that fertilized the egg that produced me had slid down her legnno bear in mind i can remember as a child running into her room playing and she would say to me as a 7 year old child "i wished i had left you in oblivion"this is one of many such saying my mother had for me......i wasn't a bad child i just wasn't allowed to do anything such as going outside going over a friends house....etc,i have struggled for years as to why this woman hates me so.i got baptized at 15 really as a way of pleasing them what the hell does a child know at 15??

?granted it took me some time to get myself together and put those hurtful comments in the past,but today when my aunt let it slip about what my mother has said about me it was like pulling a scap off of a wound.my wife always complains about how im emotionless and distance,this was done by me as a way of protecting myself.so i've decided and i hate to say this that my christian god fearing parents...are dead to me there is no way i can have a relationship with people that are so wicked and since she never wanted me anyway....it works out for the best thx i just needed to vent i felt like i was going to pop..

whathappened

Your mom is not normal, not even close. She didn't deserve you.

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SPECIAL SEATING ARRANGEMENTS FOR ELDERS AND ELDERETTES ARE HERE!

by AuntConnie in

we have special seating arrangements in my kingdom hall where other families know they are not to go near them!

a trouble making family would intentionally take our seats until we made their life hell by lying about them.

they left our paradise kingdom hall and now i am working on changing the color of our the seats(purple, scarlet) the elders and elderettes will be sitting on.

whathappened

Aunt Connie, have you seen a professional therapist? I hope you are just a Joan Rivers type JW comedian.

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yet another newbie..

by ragnarok75 in

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i've been lurking here for some time and now that i've registered here's a little bit about myself... i'm in northern europe (so english is not my own language,but i have indeed studied it for more than 18 months) and i was born into this hateful cult in the "momentuous" year of -75.good that my parents stayed alive till then!.

as far back as i can remember i had doubts both about the doctrines and the whole existence of god.however,i instinctively knew that these doubts are not to be mentioned.so i learned to be a fake at an early age.though having read many other stories here i realise how easy i got it.i now understand that we lived in a rather liberal area and also my family was quite liberal eventhough my dad was an elder since mid -80 and mom was really "strong in the truth".i never brought up the religion at school or with friends and was never bullied or anything.it helped that i was good at sports,especially football (soccer for americans) and football is also the source of my biggest hurt in childhood.i know it may sound very trivial,but the fact that i wasn't allowed to join a football team felt just so unjust and painfull and it lasted all through my childhood.whenever we had a new gym teacher,the first thing he asked me was which team do i play for.i was too embarrased to tell the truth and i just gave the impression that i only wanted to play for fun and not join any team.oh,how badly i wanted to!.

somehow i managed to silence all those doubts and got babtised as a young man.very soon after the babtism i knew that it didn't have the hoped for effect of making me more spiritual and meetings and field service still felt an absolute bore.now began the long years of just "going through the motions".all my family (parents,many brothers and sisters,uncles and aunts,nieces and nephews) and most of my friends were in.i never reached out and attended only one or two meetings a week and penned my hours.i kind of liked my congregation (also,the seats at our kh were really comfy,so i often slept through the meetings) and made some very good friends.friends that - as you all can guess- didn't turn out to be so good in the end,but with whom i nonetheless had some good times and felt a strong connection to.. for a long time nothing happened that would've disrupted my rather non-eventfull life as a lacklustre jdub with at least another foot in the "world".i'd done many things that would've gotten me d'fed,but i never had any intentions of going to the elders about it and i had no pangs of conscience about it either.it was just a matter of convenience..i liked my witness friends,wanted to hold on to them and not to lose my family.. however..there was this girl... a (worldly,of course) girl that i had absolutely fell for and had a brief romance with many years ago.now she was back in my life.i must omit the proceeding turns of events for the sake of anonymity,but the end result is that i'm a proud father of a lovely baby girl.well,not so much baby anymore as she starts school soon.i love her so much and it gives me great satisfaction that she is growing free from any influence of vicious cults or of any gods for that matter.we live now in different countries but i see her often and there's always skype.. her birth also acted as a catalyst for the change in relationship between me and the society.i decided that i wanted to share the joy of her birth and existence with my family,eventhough i also knew that that would mean i'd have to go the elders too.if i didn't,they would,and that would result in automatic disfellowshippping.. a jc was duly formed and i had decided that i'm not going to go there and tell them that i regret her,as having her is the best thing that's ever happeded to me.

whathappened

What a dear young man you are. You are just a few years older than my daughter. Enjoyed reading your story. Welcome.

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For the Faders...

by Kool Jo in

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this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.

i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.

people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .

whathappened

I abruptly stopped going to meetings about two years ago. Since I was all but ignored when I was in, I have had little problems. When I see witnesses, I act like I don't recognize them. It''s working so far!

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Little update

by Kool Jo in

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good day all...i havent posted in a while, but still reading some of the posts...been very busy at my job!.

whathappened

Sounds like you are indeed smitten with the lovely young witness girl.

Being a hopeless romantic, I suggest you pursue her and engage her in conversation, asking her many many questions on subjects that Jehovah's Witnesses simply cannot be correct about. She may decide she wants you more than the cult.

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Yesterday was my last meeting

by nolongerconfused in

yesterday's watchtower study was the last straw for me...as you all have probably seen the post before me, here's the quote that did it for me.

11/15/2012 wt "forgive one another freely".

paragraph 16 - "in accord with jehovahs's will, christian elders have been entrusted with the responsibility of wrongdoing in the congregation.

whathappened

I, too, am happy for you breaking free of the cult. Continue to be loving to your husband and who knows, you may be in the clear.

Welcome to your new favorite pastime, posting on JWN.

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First post / 1914 info

by whichway2go in

my first post here after about 6 months of lurking.

i will comment more and give some more info later, but i am still active, and looking for my way to exit.

i had a question that i'm hoping someone can help with.

whathappened

Welcome, Whichway. You are among true friends here and can speak freely. It's great, isn't it?