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  Test yourself...Which Religion Best Suits You, what non religion best suits you.

  by Giordano in

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  since we have had so many joining up while others have changed their thinking it doesn't hurt to see where we stand now .. this 20 question test is not the definitive test but it may be revealing or affirming....... find out where your religious or nonreligious comfort range is.. i just took it and my #1 choice was that i was a secular humanist.

  being a jw was #24........ way way down the list.. www.playbuzz.com/benjaminbirely10/which-religion-best-suits-you.

  you start by clicking on the general statement that is closest to how you think.

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  Buddhism
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  Born in baptisms to avoid embarrassment

  by Spoletta in

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  i noticed a recent commenter mention an assembly that had only one baptism, a born in.

  the last assembly i went to had three baptisms, of which two were born ins.

  could part of the motivation for youth baptism be to avoid the embarrassment of an assembly with no baptisms at all?

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  From my own experience as a born in - one starts getting the guilt trip and scare tactics that one isn't making the truth their own and the parents can no longer protect them at Armageddon when one is around 9-10 years old. Kids who want to "kiss up" or feel the attention they would not otherwise get, get baptized very early. I don't mean to be biased but most boys who get baptized early seem to want the ego boost. Most girls are wracked by fear, guilt, and shame. And again this is coming from personal experience and conversations with my brothers (familial) and many friends. Most teenagers seem to just be sick of being bugged about it.
  
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  Stephanie Fessler v Watch Tower - Trial on Tuesday, Feb. 7, 2017 in Pennsylvania

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  2. child-abuse

  http://avoidjw.org/2017/02/stephanie-fessler-v-watch-tower/.

  stephanie fessler v watch tower.

  stephanie fessler was brought up as a jehovah’s witness by her parents, jodee and kevin.

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  @Pete Zahut and others who have commented on parents culpability - I totally agree. There has to be some responsibility on the parents part here - especially as it continued for a year after the initial meeting with elders.
  
  As for the kids responsibility - fifteen, especially as a naive witness kid is still a very vulnerable time. If this was an older man, would she be considered more of a victim? The girl is a victim, there really is no question and she shouldn't be blamed.
  
  WT as by PA law should have reported, but the parents should have been parents too, and both protected their daughter from further harm and reported the woman.
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  Country Crock Ad.. . .by Bethelite?

  by JWdaughter in

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  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7j54qnhasng.

  so, i saw this ad and it felt so uncomfortably familiar.

  and weird somehow.

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  I actually saw this a couple of weeks ago and thought the same thing, but just thought it was by ex-JW paranoia kicking in...It is the Stepford like voices that really does it ...
  
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  Were you aware of the shunning policy when becoming a JW

  by UnshackleTheChains in

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  for those who became jws, were you fully aware of the societys cruel shunning policy whilst studying?

  i absolutely had no idea such a policy existed until years later.

  it really only hit home when reading the horrendous stories on the internet around 2002. .

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  As a born in I was quite aware of disfellowshipping when I was baptized at 13. But it really didn't matter - back then in the early 80's unbaptized publishers could get "disassociated" and treated as some disfellowshipped. Pretty much as a born in we were already screwed because at least where we lived if you weren't a publisher by the time you were 5-6 years old you were considered to be from a weak family. Most of us kids had seen what happened if you didn't tow the line - watching 11-12 years olds sitting at the back of the hall without their parents because they got caught in some small infraction at school like trying smoking.
  
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  If this system goes on.

  by karter in

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  i heard my hard out jw sister say that for the 1st time in many years and i'm hearing more and more jw's saying that.

  years ago when i was in they talked about the new system coming any minute..

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  I think one of the major head in hands blows post-jw was realizing my own mortality. The fact that I wasn't going to live forever, that in fact my life was finite was a difficult realization after 30+ years as a born-in. But was I had my moment, or rather several moments, I actually felt relief. It meant that I could live my life for now - breathe laugh work help others - all now. I was no longer just biding time until some vegetarian lions and panda hugging fantasy world. I can't imagine the emotional turmoil of my parents nearing 70 who have spent their whole lives in expectation, or my grandmother in her 90's who used to tell me as a little kid (when she was not much older than I am now) that it was just around the corner.
  
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  You know it's time to give up the JW religion when your route call tells you to

  by jambon1 in

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  lasting memory of the latter period of time in the organisation:.

  i had a route call with the magazines whom i'd called on for a number of years.

  eventually when i become a parent i became consumed with negativity, doubt (blood issue) & depression.

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  I spent most of my adult life struggling with bouts of depression - over and over I would be told pray more, go out in service more (was a pioneer), more personal study, etc etc etc. Those were the nice comments. Then there were the ones that were less nice like "oh you must be doing something or have done something to block Jehovah's spirit". Guilt guilt guilt.

  When I left there was some rough times as I transitioned after 30+ years as a born in to a "worldly person". However, slowly the overwhelming depression lifted to a very manageable content life. I graduated college, became a mom, settled into the cliche PTO middle age career mom thingy. Not perfect but I'm relatively happy.
  
  A few years ago I ran into a close relative who is also an elder. He actually talked to me for quite awhile. Because he is a relative he had heard through the grapevine how well my life was going and he told me everyone (The congregation/friends) were actually kind of angry/perplexed because I was doing so well - so much better. I outright told him when all the needless constant guilt and unreal expectations went away do did my depression. As a witness I had been born to fail. He had no reply. He didn't get angry. He just got this look in his eye like "yeah, I get it". I found out shortly after that through the grapevine that he had been dealing with his own issues with internal elder politics.
  
  Shortly, after that I ran into another elder, one who had actually been on my judicial committee. He was always a very sweet older brother and said that I looked like I was doing really well. I said yes I was. He said he and his wife missed me, but obviously things were going well for me and left it at that.
  
  Deep down I think a lot of those in really really know it is not a healthy environment.
  
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  What age were you when you were counted as a publisher?

  by OrphanCrow in

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  the wts has always included minors and adults in the same categories - publisher and baptized.. i am interested in knowing how many minors, approximately, are included in the publisher count.

  and, at what age a person started publishing.

  what age was the youngest publisher reported?.

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  5 or 6
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  Yoga pants parade to protest a mans comments on women's wear.

  by ToesUp in

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  yoga pants parade.

  i guess tight pants tony isn't the only man that needs to get a life!.

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  I am totally giving myself up by saying this - but I lived in the above town many years ago for years and I really can't believe this has made national news. If you knew the town it is kind of a bit uppity and known by the local kids as Borrington - and this has just made it just that much more of a joke. Us locals are having quite fun with it.
  
  As a mom of two small children - yoga pants are so so comfortable, convenient, and my saving grace - I just might join in the march, but with my own personal anti-TTP agenda.
  
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  What would be the perfect song to introduce a JW comedy sketch?

  by usualusername1 in

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  i have no idea.... .

  any ideas will help.... .

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  Hotel California - Eagles
  Handle With Care - Traveling Wilburys