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  I Just Had A Big Fat Bomb Drop On My Head and It Leaves Alot Of Questions

  by TotallyADD in

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  when i got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down i have some hard news to tell you.

  so i sat down and she began saying my brother called and i imminently ask if my mom had died.

  she said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about.

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  Lost- You are so right. Money always seem to get in the way.
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  I Just Had A Big Fat Bomb Drop On My Head and It Leaves Alot Of Questions

  by TotallyADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down i have some hard news to tell you.

  so i sat down and she began saying my brother called and i imminently ask if my mom had died.

  she said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about.

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  snare&racket-Good point "Life is too short" If only more people understood that.

  whathappened- My elder brother has tried to control me all my life. He is 11 years older than me and we are million miles apart in our thinking.

  He loves using the bible with Wt. Cult reasoning as a weapon.

  Quendi- What a fine example you have set for everybody to follow. Thank you for the insight.

  Glordano- The problem we have is all we have is a last name to go by and a time period that may or may not be right. But we are working

  on it with what little imformation we have.

  Oubliette- You are right family isn't neccessarily about blood. Most of my blood family are all messed up by the cult. Maybe knowing him

  would be diffrent.

  Diest- I do think about that. "Righting a wrong." My dad sure didn't. Good point. Thanks

  steve 2- I don't know if I can take anymore bombs this year. It's been a hard one to say the least. I am getting to the point of being

  shell shock. LOL

  VIII- No first names just a last name. The mother is close to 90 years old now if she is still alive. Thats the first thing my wife did today

  was look at death notices. Emotions are high but all I need is a good nights rest. Maybe I will get that tonight.

  Again thank you for all your insightful thoughts. They are really helping. Totally ADD
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  I Just Had A Big Fat Bomb Drop On My Head and It Leaves Alot Of Questions

  by TotallyADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down i have some hard news to tell you.

  so i sat down and she began saying my brother called and i imminently ask if my mom had died.

  she said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about.

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  lost-Sorry about your father. I feel so sad for all who had lousy parents.

  jamiebowers- LOL Take Care.

  Finally awake- What you said brought up a memory. Many years ago my father gave a talk on the service meeting. He ask the question what do you

  call a child born out of wedlock? Then he said a bastard. He must have said it over a doz. times. He upset so many the body of

  elders got together and talk to him. He was in his late 70't at the time so I think they chalk it up to age. I think now he was trying

  to tell us something.

  Clarity- Good message and thanks for the Hugs.

  gma-tired2-I am gald you are able to talk again. Thank you for the advice.

  Thanks to everyone who have given me advice. I have had a night to sleep on it and I think for now I will take it very slowly and see what happens. Totally ADD
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  We're Jehovah's Witnesses Witnesses

  by laverite in

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  what i value most about jwn is that this site, with the massive numbers of posts and experiences shared here, is a very strong public world-wide witness on the impact of the watchtower publishing corporation has on the lives of jehovah's witnesses (both current and former).. the countless lived experiences shared here stand as a public record of first hand experiences.

  in sharing our experiences, we witness to others about our (former) religion.

  rather than espousing the truthtm, we speak to the real truth about the truthtm.

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  laverite so true. So true. Totally ADD
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  I Just Had A Big Fat Bomb Drop On My Head and It Leaves Alot Of Questions

  by TotallyADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down i have some hard news to tell you.

  so i sat down and she began saying my brother called and i imminently ask if my mom had died.

  she said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about.

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  Painted ToeNail- Sad story you have. I hope one day you will find your lose brother and be able to hug him. Gives me something to think about.

  Violia- I am now the middle child.

  Laverite- thank you for your concern. I will not rush anything. Thanks for the Hugs.

  Zed is dead- Other women was a employee of my parents when this happen. She was also a school mate of theirs. All I know is my father

  could care less about him. To think he took this to his grave.
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  7/15 WT- Insane, Far Fetched, Narcissistic "New Light " about the FDS

  by flipper in

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  i know this article has been discussed, re-hashed upside down in past threads.

  but there were at least 2 points i discovered in here that i felt were pertinent and important to bring out concerning the total control and narcissistic tendencies that these wt leaders possess on the governing body, i.e.

  alleged " faithful slave " .

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  The Wt. Cult always remind me of the 90's TV comedy show Dinosaurs. The plant eating dinosaurs was at war with the meat eating dinosaurs. The We Are Right corporations was behind it all. Well the DNN news network was tried of saying We Are Right all the time. So they ask if they could shorten the saying by using the first letters in each word. So they come up with the word War. I say this because everytime the Wt. Cult brings crap out like this I always think of the word War. We Are Right. So it does not matter what facts or truths are out there about the Cult they always stick to their slogan We Are Right. Totally ADD
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  I Just Had A Big Fat Bomb Drop On My Head and It Leaves Alot Of Questions

  by TotallyADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down i have some hard news to tell you.

  so i sat down and she began saying my brother called and i imminently ask if my mom had died.

  she said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about.

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  nugget-good advice on doing a discreet search on him to make sure what kind of person he is. If he checks out then I can decide what to do.

  I am 59 years old.

  gma-tired2- When I first heard I was speechless too.

  OnTheWayOut- You are right not to say a bad thing about our father. I will bite my tongue.

  Glander-Advice well taken

  Skeater1-Open minded I will be. I promise.

  ABibleStudent-He was a very hard man to love. If I do contact him I will keep it positive.

  LisaRose-I came from a small town in cintral IL were things like this happen all the time. 2013 has been one crazy year.

  Violia-That was on thought I did have. A brother who is not a JW.

  Old Goat- Sorry for your hurt. I guess what I am going through is nothing new.
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  I Just Had A Big Fat Bomb Drop On My Head and It Leaves Alot Of Questions

  by TotallyADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down i have some hard news to tell you.

  so i sat down and she began saying my brother called and i imminently ask if my mom had died.

  she said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about.

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  ILoveTTATT-Thanks for the movie advice. I will look it up.

  Frogonmytoe-Love that name. It's going to take sometime for me to digest this. That's for sure

  Lozhasleft-My mom does not want me to know about this. She is 90 years old so I will not bother her with this.

  Narcissistic Supply-Whatever Man. LOL thanks

  Londo 111-I know being positive is the name of the game. I will take this slowly.

  flipper-You are right I will take my time. Next week is our county fair and I will be running our Master Gardening Booth. That will help take must

  of this off my mind. Could not have come at a better time. Thanks for the encouragement.
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  I Just Had A Big Fat Bomb Drop On My Head and It Leaves Alot Of Questions

  by TotallyADD in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down i have some hard news to tell you.

  so i sat down and she began saying my brother called and i imminently ask if my mom had died.

  she said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about.

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  When I got home from work this afternoon my wife was standing near the door looking at me and said you need to sit down I have some hard news to tell you. So I sat down and she began saying my brother called and I imminently ask if my mom had died. She said no but my mother told my brother a deep family secrect that no one knows about. It seems back in 1968 when I was 14 my father who is now dead had a child with another women in our small town and that is the reason we moved to FL in 1970. I was speechless. I have a half brother living somewhere else I do not know about. This does explain alot of things to me about my family. I knew they was screwed up but this? Unbelievable!!!! Of course my brother the cult elder took 2 months to tell me after finding out. He told me he did not know if he should or not. But finally decided he should. Lucky me!! He also goes on I should not say anything to my kids about it or even try to look up our half brother. I told him I will think about it but it's up to me what I decide.

  My father the one who everybody thought was such a great elder the one who would talk on stage all the time about how bad adultery was. The one everyone would tell me how great it must of been to be raised by him. That statement always made me sick to my stomach by the way. The one that entire elder bodies would listen to and respect. I had a close friend tell me many years ago when I first became a elder this "Totally ADD listen very closely to what elders say on stage. If they talk alot about a certain thing alot. They are probable gulity of it. Well guess what my dad talk alot about on stage?" So here I am kinda numb right now. Mrs. Reopened Mind is at work so I have no one to talk to right now.

  So here is some question I will be asking myself and thinking about for many days to come. Should I try to contact this person? What about his family? I know my parents knew this lady because they went to school together. So that would make her 90 if she is still alive. Does our half brother know about this or has he been left in the dark also? If I do decide to contact him what would I say? Or is it best to let sleeping dogs lie? I wonder what does he look like? What kind of life has he had? Does he have kids? Where does he live? The questions keep coming and coming. I can tell this has upset my elder brother very much. For the first time I can remember he talk about how bad it was to live with our parents. How abusive they was. How our mom was very hateful. Then because he was 11 when our parents came into the cult he said how he remember how happy she was before coming into the cult and really hated not being able to celebrate the holidays anymore or be around our so called worldly relatives. So according to my mother my father always had a problem keeping his penis in his pants. What a revelation!!!!!

  That's the story. I don't know what else to say. Except this has sure been one hellish year for us. Thanks for listening. Totally ADD
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  Happiness/unhappiness

  by lostinthought in

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  i was told by a family member the other day "if you want to leave jehovah, go ahead.

  but don't think you'll ever be happy.

  all the people i know who have left got burned by the world and they come back to the truth".

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  I am like everybody else in this world. I have happy days and not so happy days. That is the way life is. But now that I am not under the control of the Wt. Cult I can say my happy days are getting bigger and bigger. I will be on cloud 9 when I see the day my kids have left the control of the Wt. Cult. Totally ADD