Posts by Carole007

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help appreciated...any success or failures at truly conscious efforts to make new friends after a life in jwland? As a very social person i still only seem to have ex-dubs as my new friends...

by oompa in

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as a jw...at least if you were social...you could walk into about any hall and find other social jw's you could become friends with...yes they are conditional...perhaps more so than other friends, but i did have some great friends there and i still miss them.

since my wake up....then departure....now df status....i realize that i have had only seven or so real friends and five were found here..... five are fairly local, one is far away, and one is an old high school friend i have reconnected with (lives a thousand miles away).....and i have met some nice people through these friends but they are more aquaintances than close friends.

the bar scene did not really get me anywhere with guys or girls...and i tried meetup.com but as of yet have not connected with anyone....so what worked for you?

Carole007

Dear Friends:

I have DA from the Jehovah Witness Organization for over 4 months now. Yes it is awkward and at times lonely. The fear and anger and all the other emotions that go along with it can at times be overwhelming. It has been pure hell for me. So lick my wounds and move on. I realize that this is an International Site so what I am proposing is for anyone in the Buffalo New York or surrounding areas email me and we can create our own network. Go to a picnic, movie whatever just talk and connect. You can also find me on facebook. We can meet up weeking and talk about whatever. You can find me on Facebook under Carolyn Collins. I look forward to hearing from you.

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What Is Truth?

by Reopened Mind in

i was the one at the meetings who had a dictionary or at least a definition written in the margin.

i thought it was important to understand the meaning of words to better comprehend the lesson.

i liked that the writers would throw out words which were not commonly used to help us expand our vocabularies.

Carole007

Sorry to sound like a complete idiot so what does the Bible speak about going through the narrow gate, Broad and spacious is the road leading to destruction and many are going through where as narrow the gate and cramped the road leading to life and few are the ones finding. Sorry for not quoting exactly I boxed all the material up and refuse to lay eyes on it again. Where is the true religion now that I have gotten suckered twice. And psacramento I love your humor(smile)

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What Is Truth?

by Reopened Mind in

i was the one at the meetings who had a dictionary or at least a definition written in the margin.

i thought it was important to understand the meaning of words to better comprehend the lesson.

i liked that the writers would throw out words which were not commonly used to help us expand our vocabularies.

Carole007

So what is the truth? Maybe I am posting on the wrong board, but what turned me off with the WTS is the doomsday masacre.

All these people is suppose to die at what, the war of the great day of Jehovah. You are taught that if you don't come in the Ark of salvation (WTS) then you will be destroyed. Mind you, you have been brainwashed into thinking that all the chuches of Christiandom is false. Now that you have left the WTS where do you go? You have to start all over again learning the truth. This is what frustrates me. Making the truth your own. All these different denominations all professing the same thing. I will never say that God does not exist, but unlearning and relearing that is a stuggle for me. 2 times I have made this mistake, 1 with the Catholics and 2 with the Jehovah Witnesses. Now what? Can somebody please shed some light on this for me.

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BLACK HISTORY MONTH SHOULD INCLUDE A WARNING ABOUT THE WATCHTOWER CORPORATION

by wasblind in

the comparisions of slavery in the early days of america, to the watchtower today are endless.

here are just a few that come to mind.

1) you have your overseerers.

Carole007

@wasblind:

You hit the nail on the head with this one. I would have never made the comparison. Not making much comparison these days, I do know that I have to get back to normal whatever that is. There is no normalcy in the WT.(so called "truth") then you are taught that there is not normalcy in the world... Where do you go from here?

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Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?

by brotherdan in

i thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.

i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.

no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.

Carole007

Faded out approximately 3 weeks ago. Was never baptised, did make publisher and joined the school. Last year I was kicked out of the school because I had a blood transfusion. (The holier than thou sister couldn't wait to run back and tell the elders that.) Had been studying off and on for the past 30 years, just could not make the plunge. It seemed like the truth but something about it did not seem right. Cliques like you would not believe. The pasted on smiles, not to mention all this so-called love. Could not understand how you have all this holy spirit floating around and then have people walking around acting worse than the people in the world. I am no angel, but you been in the truth all this time and you still have not learned having a sense of human decency.

My 16 year old wanted no part of this, and I would not make him attend. My mother gave me a choice when I was coming up and I was not going to force this on him. I had planned on making a move toward baptism. With all this nagging going on in my head. Then the sister came for my bible study. She told me that my problem was that I did not respect authority. She recalled the time that I remembered vividly, I wanted a CD(the Watchtower Library) I asked one of the elders could I use his to do some research for my lessons. He said that they were only for DEDICATED witnesses. So I said never mind, and added I will get it on my own. Which I did purchase from Amazon.com. So she said if the brothers say you can't do something or have something then they mean just that. You must OBEY the brothers. Something about that word OBEY. Having been a rebel all my life, that word just mades me sick.

Took a nap with this OBEY nonsense still weighing heavily on my mind. When I woke up I remembered what it was. RAY FRANZ I had read his book ( Crisis of Conscience) 11 years earlier, did all sorts of research on the WT Society. How in the hell could I have forgot all this information? Called my Bible study teacher told her I would not be back. Wrote a letter to my local congregation, and informed them I was resigning from the school and to be place on the DO NO CALL list and have not looked back. For those that are wondering how I forgot this information in the first place, I had open heart surgery 11 years ago. I was on life support for 3 hours and a lot of things I could not remember, some things I had to learn all over again.