CEDARS: All I can say is be EXTREMELY patient, cautious and conciliatory with your husband if you want to avoid being disfellowshipped. I came close to being the subject of a judicial committee myself (I won't say now how I got out of it), and I soon resolved that it is better to resort to deception than risk being cut off from your family just for the sake of making some kind of 'statement' (not that it came to that, fortunately). If you have seen how bad it is, you will realise now that your elders were NOT appointed by holy spirit, so it's pointless indulging their whims.
SKEETER: Because you have children, I think it's very wise to do whatever is possible to keep the family intact (unless your husband is beating you/kids). ..............Better to stay in the marriage and guide the children as much as possible away from the Watchtower (i.e. towards college). As they get to be teenagers, you can help resist their baptism by pointing out their immaturity in other areas. Just get them to 18. Do what it takes. It may mean keeping up a front.
DIAMONDZ: You may do study together with your husband. Maybe, a good oppertunity would be to bring up the new WT articles on 607BC and actually research what wts wrote and bring out the points. There are several indepth discussions on this forum that may help you with your research.
LEAVINTWT: You will be asked, repeatedly and at different times, whether or not you "still believe that WT is God's Organization". If you want to continue a diaologe, you MUST always answer 'Yes', every single time. If you ever say 'No', you will be dismissed, in their minds, for good.
ANGEL, you have some priceless advice there!
NEVER NEVER NEVER admit questioning the WTS as God's Channel or Organization on Earth today, just as LWT has stated.
ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS ERASE YOUR COMPUTER'S BROWSER MEMORY or your hubby or someone visiting will find that you are on APOSTATE SITES.
Find an excuse for the information you have recently discovered about WT doctrine. NOT THAT YOU ARE RESEARCHING ONLINE. Someone at work. Someone in the family. Someone with whom you are having scripturual discussions at the door. DO NOT ADMIT TO LOOKING AT APOSTATE WEBSITES.
Be cautious if you purchase or download Crisis Of Conscience. IT IS APOSTATE MATERIAL. Easier to hide a pdf copy than a hard copy (IMHO). Steve Hassan's books are not officially apostate. He is NOT an apostate. He was not a former JW and he does not directly attack only JWs.
YOUR BUDDY SAID: He got quite defensive and when he couldnt answer a question I posed he said "do I have to witness to you now?".
Take the offense, and tell him HELL YES, THAT IS HIS JOB!
YOUR spirituality is HIS responsibility!
Draggin in the elders will only result in HIM LOSING HIS MS responsibilities, because HE is NOT doing HIS JOB.
If there is ANYTHING he does that is questionable? Remind him of it --
Cheating on counting time in Field Service at McDonalds? --
FAILING to have regular Family Worship Night? -- that alone will get him removed! --
Oral Sex? --
R-rated movies? -- or even occasional porn?
Overdrinking on occasion? Driving when he would fail a breathalizer?
You can compare any of these things to the MINOR issue that you have about YOUR CONFUSION over the minor WT issue. Remember, it's just some minor confusion -- NOT A STUMBLING BLOCK -- NOT worthy of talking to anyone else about it -- after all, YOU ARE WAITING ON JEHOVAH TO RESOLVE IT AND NOT GOING TO MAKE A BIG ISSUE ABOUT IT WITH THE ELDERS OR THE CO OR ANYONE ELSE. Stick by that!!!
Why is he so upset over your question but a BJ is OK? or something like that........( That's a great issue to suggest asking the elders or CO about.)
TELL US: What is the issue that has broadsided you?
Good Luck
DOC
