Posts by Sabin

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Closer/death/Funerals

by Leela1 in

hello all i am fairly new to this site even though i have been da since i was 16 years old i am now 35 years old.

i have had very little contact with my family since i left maybe a handful of times over the years.

i thought i put the past behind me and moved on i have 4 amazing kids of my own really supportive partner and great friends who have become my family.

Hello Leela, my opinion is that you have changed because you chose to, your father has stayed the same because he chose to. No matter what you do now my guess is that his perception of things will not change. All the hurt that you have already been through will be brought back up & you may find yourself back emotionally as that 16yr old girl. That little girl you carry inside that is who should be worrying & looking out for, she is the one that needs you. Be there for her. You have nothing to feel guilty about, that is part of the reason your asking right? I know that feeling, how they love to say it's your fault, you made us do it, how you think that it is the right thing to do so if you don't go through with it you will feel like a bad person all over again. It isn't true, you are not a bad person, your father is a bad father. Isn't that the truth Leela, you are not accountable for your father or his choices. You are accountable for protecting your own inner child. Yes you may forgive your father but can will never forget. I think if you sit down & ask the 16yr old girl inside wether she wants you to go back she will tell you.

Whatever you decide to do Leela, do it for you. You owe no explanation to anybody else, especially not him.

Please don't leave this forum, you will find support/laughs/experiences/advise & the occasional argument here, you will also find big hearts & Big Hugs. SABIN.

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am i overreacting?

by freeandcontent in

hi, new here but have been lurking for a while.

some background first, i am from the uk, 3rd gen born in, dad, grandad elders etc.

17 years ago i left, no df or da just left, 18 years old and alone but i did it and have had no regrets.

Sabin

Outlaw, funny, a wee bit insensitive.

F&C if you had the chat see how it goes from there. However, keep in mind what OutLaw has said.

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umbertoecho re the ARC

by umbertoecho in

hello to everyone.. i hope you are all well and sorting things out between yourselves.

i have temporary internet access which is probably a good thing for now.

i have been contacted by the arc in a respectful and loving manner today.

Sabin

Big Hug & even bigger hug for you. You should be proud of yourself, I am proud of you. WE are ALL proud of you.

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Fade Fail: Not as Easy as I'd Like

by Hadriel in

this has been tough.

very tough actually.

because i'm so integrated into things including certain tasks which i can't say as it would be a dead giveaway i find myself constantly bombarded by things.. i'm literally a lying every day.

Sabin

"It make's want to be evil back at times."

You couldn't have worded it better, they push & push & push until in the end you are left with no choice but to be rude in order to protect yourself. Then they turn it around on you. Hang on in there I bet your doing a lot better than you think.

The Bastards.

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am i overreacting?

by freeandcontent in

hi, new here but have been lurking for a while.

some background first, i am from the uk, 3rd gen born in, dad, grandad elders etc.

17 years ago i left, no df or da just left, 18 years old and alone but i did it and have had no regrets.

Sabin

Hello F&C, it's good to have you join us. You don't need any-one to advise you what to do, your own instincts already let you know didn't they. Go with your gut.

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JWs at Rolling Stones Concert!

by Atlantis in

was this done for an advertising stunt?

received this in an email.. ------------------------------------------------.

.. a few days ago in porto alegre there was a rolling stones concert.

Sabin

You don't understand, they were protecting the rolling stones from their adoring fans. Get back people, we are the Religious Riot Police.

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what buzz word from the jw's do you hate & why?

by Sabin in

jw
friends

so my hubby has been on a bit of a roll about the jdubs, we were talking a lot about them & he said the buzz word he hate's the most is "worldly" why?

because he say's "with that one word they have condemned (according to their believes) a person as being worthy of nothing but death.

".

Sabin

HOURS & TIME

How many hours did you do? I gotta get my hours in. Can you do more hours? Have you reported your hours this month?

What are you doing with your time? Are you spending to much time on re-creation/T.V/friends/etc. Can you spend more time in the service?

No wonder people think we are nuts.We may as well be speaking Latin.

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Hi your df but your invited to the memorial but we will not welcome you or talk to you .

by poopie in

jw
friends

but your welcome to come as guest we just will not talk to you stupid idiot

Sabin

AAAAHHHHHH! feel the love.

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Chronic relapse - what do I do?

by wayoutthere in

jw
friends

my first post here and unfortunately it is asking for help.. i was a born in jehovah's witness and from my earliest memories, i know i hated being one.

i hated the embarrassment of being the "outsider" at school and i hated not being allowed to have any friends.

of course i had the obligatory friends in the kingdom hall - none of whom were my age exactly and none of whom i would have personally chosen to be friends with if i had been left to pick them myself in a natural setting.

Sabin

Wayoutthere, it sounds like you are suffering with anxiety, which is perfectly normal for a person who has had your upbringing. You will quite often hear adults say that kid's are so resilient. Well that isn't true. If their emotions are not listened to & ignored they sink in to the stomach & some times are triggered or reactivated in later life. As I said before this is a normal response. What is important now is that you don't ignore it. Go get some help. Psychologist is good as they will help you to understand yourself & find ways that you can work through/overcome this obstacle. They will not judge you & neither will we on this forum. It isn't you, o.k. you are not irrational, believe me. Big Hug.

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Hello, fairly new, studying for around 7 months, just thought I would introduce myself.

by Conanthebeliever in

hello everyone, i hope you are all ok. .

my name is conan, i am 25, and from the uk.

i have some brain damage, so i apologise in advance if my syntax is off or i go a long way around explaining things.

Sabin

Hello to you Conan, it is so good of you to join us along with a multitude of other young ones that seem to be joining daily. Please stick around.