Yes, I am a failed Jehovah's Witness.
I did not succeed in compartmentalization, the keystone to life as one of Jehovah's Witnesses.
I came to realize that it wasn't doctrine that appeals to so many who join and stay in--because that doctrine changes so suddenly and is but secondary to obedience to the Governing Body which today can say something is so and tomorrow demand that we not put any more faith in such a thing...
No, I failed because I don't have a need to compartmentalize religions and doctrines and people into groups of "all good" and "all bad," as Jehovah's Witnesses do.
I failed to have the need for having simplified answers to all life's problems and to believe I was 100% right about everything I believed, thus feeling more enlightened than my neighbor.
I failed because I realized I was not being educated well-enough to discuss religion and the Bible with others by the Watchtower and those associated with it. I failed because I began to learn Greek, Hebrew, Aramaic, Latin, and because I began to read and study the writings of the Church Fathers.
I failed because I learned World History--the real thing, as well as learning the scientific method to take no one's word as authority but to be able to test theories and put things to the test to see by my own hand if things were so.
I failed because as I learned about God I also learned that those who had different views were not evil or lesser humans, that they were deserving of dignity, respect, and even love for whom and for what they really were. Because I could see that God did not deny anyone air to breathe, sun to warm themselves, or any of the things needed for life--even to those who denied his existence--I saw your judgmental ways as wrong.
I failed because I had no desire after leaving the Jehovah's Witnesses to be an "apostate," to beat my "former" brothers, and to speak ill of them. While I do hold you incorrect about a lot of things, I don't view you as a former brother or former sister as you probably now view me. I fail at judging you worthy of Jehovah's destruction merely because you do or don't adhere to certain teachings. I fail at being a judge of others in that way entirely.
Regardless of how incorrect a doctrine might be that one holds to, I fail because I still think you are worth greeting when I see you...
of having you in my life as a friend regardless of your creed or lack thereof.
I fail because I refuse to shun you, regardless of what you choose to believe. (This doesn't mean I will be accepting of those who believe it is good to murder or cause strife in the world by robbing others of their peace or rights or anything of that nature. But I fail because if there truly is a God, I cannot see him shunning anyone today because of what they do or don't believe about him.)
I put the world on notice today, that I am a failed Jehovah's Witness because I fail to see you as a failure regardless of your choices. You might make a mistake, choose a way that later you regret, but a failure? No. Never.
And if that makes me a failure, then so be it.