Hi Teejay!
I learned that males humans were animals a longgggg time ago when I was in Jr. High school. There was a stairway in the school that was "famous" - and the smart girls learned to walk on the side of the stairs that was against the wall, NOT the side near the railing.
There were BOYS underneath who spent god-knows how much time hanging around pretending to be "hanging around" because they were occasionally rewarded with a micro-second glimpse of an unknowing girl's panties as she came down the stairs on the railing side. (This was back when we couldn't wear pants to school yet! Dresses only!)
Those boys LIVED for those moments, it seemed.... LOL
Xena and Spaznik said a lot that I relate to. My mate is very aroused by certain visual, uh, stuff... he has shown me a few things, but his intentions were 'pure' - wants me to know what turns him on, etc. He has never caused ME to feel slighted, insulted, ugly, inferior, or anything other than I am his true love
I think when women are helped their mate to feel secure - by reassuring them of their love, desire, and faithfulness, and NOT giving them cause to feel threatened or neglected or unattractive, most women would not need to make an issue of stuff like pornography or a reflexive jaw-drop when a gorgeous barbie doll walks by.
If females feel unloved, threatened, insecure, and the like, they will have "issues" with just about anything available, simply because they are hurting.
Remember last April when you posted something about toilet seat- up or downs and I went ballistic on ya? (I AM sorry about that Teejay ... we were moving, living out of our car for ten days, my access to internet was sporatic, I was hungry, angry, lonely and tired and DEFINITELY wanted a few hours in a decent bathtub). Anyway, the statements contained in that thread were - uh - definitely reasoned, but underneath them, the spirit behind them was "you are such a whining neurotic cow, and I can barely stand being around you... "
Maybe the woman typified in that piece (I'll try and find it) http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/forum/thread.asp?id=25033&site=3
would not have to be a nagging bitch, always complaining and finding fault, desperately maneuvering for SOME kind of compliment (or attention, even) IF both parties took a "communications .000000101 class" and could speak directly to their needs and feelings. OK me shut up now.
I hope you will accept my apology for being - um quite direct back then because I miss you, even if you want to look at naked women....!!!
laura
Edited by - lauralisa on 13 July 2002 11:54:24