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  Portland, OR

  by bafh in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  please pm me if you live in or near portland or.

  i'd like to have some discreet contact with people in the area.

  bafh.

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  bafh

  Please PM me if you live in or near Portland OR. I'd like to have some discreet contact with people in the area.

  BAFH
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  Fading & Feeling Lost ... Part 2

  by What Now? in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  sorry to keep dragging this on ... but this is really the only place to vent right?

  so basically it's going on 4 months now that we've had zero meeting attendance, and for the last 2 months we have not reported any service time (prior to that, when our service group overseer would send a text asking for our time, we would report 4 hours each, for our "family study").

  in my last post, i talked about how we were having a really difficult time beginning a new life outside the organization.

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  I faded and it took me about 3 years to feel like I'm making new friends outside. It is hard. I was trying to not be a witness, but not be worldly. Didn't work. Join Meetup, parent groups, volunteer....it takes time. One of the social "issues" of the JWs is that you have instant relationships - and they develop fast and deep - artifically. So when you are out and about with "regular" people - it can be hard to understand why everyone isn't instantly a "friend". Well, to tell you the truth, it is healthier for friendships to develop slowly and naturally rather than in an artificial setting like the JWs.

  Don't give up. Find yourself, and others will find you.

  BAFH
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  How Do You Know If You Are "Marked"?

  by Thoughtless in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  yeah, this has been a question that has been on my mind for a while, but how do one know if he has been "marked" by the congregation?

  do they announce it?

  i have expressed doubt last year about the org, but i still have responsibilities within the kh.

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  The best way to keep from being marked is to not share your personal life with anyone. If they have no information - they will make stuff up to fill in the blanks - but it won't be anything they have evidence of - it will be more along the lines of you being materialistic or too private or whatever. The more friendly you can be at the meetings without revealing personal information the more confused they will become and eventually, they may leave you alone all together. If you are always "busy" eventually they will stop trying to socialize with you.

  Just my 2 cents.

  bafh
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  always apostasy?

  by losingit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so i've been reading many posts and threads of people's experiences leaving the jw fold.

  i get the impression that many here were df'd or da'd due to apostasy.

  is there anyone here that found out ttat after being df'd for a reason other than apostasy?

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  bafh

  I have successfully faded. Although I was reproved more than once for moral issues - I was never df'd. I have had my doubts since I was a kid, and primarily got baptized to please my parents. I do not attend anything except the Memorial once a year. I do it because I think it was a command and because it keeps from rocking the boat too much. I have only had one discussion with my mom about why I don't attend and I told her that I just don't fit in. That was the end of that. So far so good. I do have one friend who, after this year's convention, feels compelled to have some sort of conversation with me. I told her that was fine. I feel like people just need to be heard, and she comes from nothing but genuine concern and love. I am carefully considering what I will say to her so that there is no need to find me dangerous in any way. It will be a little tricky, but I think I can do it.

  bafh
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  What Do You Typically Read For News On The Internet or On TV?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i rarely watch fox news.

  but i do read the drudge report every day.

  on drudge, there are tons of newspaper links which i typically read from..

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  New York Times

  Wall Street Journal

  Mostly Brittish and Canadian Radio. It is the only way to get unbiased reports of what is happening inside the US.
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  What Would JWs Do if all the GB died at once?

  by bafh in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in another thread on the board, someone talked about their friend being a sniper in the marines and being very angry at the gb with thoughts of revenge.

  it made me wonder - what would happen to the jws if in some strange turn of events, all the gb died at the same time?

  how would they carry on if their leadership was snuffed out?

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  I am curious where the leadership would come from and what line they would have to sell to justify what happened. How could they still claim God's protection and divine guidance if He would let something like that happen?
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  What Would JWs Do if all the GB died at once?

  by bafh in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in another thread on the board, someone talked about their friend being a sniper in the marines and being very angry at the gb with thoughts of revenge.

  it made me wonder - what would happen to the jws if in some strange turn of events, all the gb died at the same time?

  how would they carry on if their leadership was snuffed out?

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  Este,

  Why even waste your time responding? Just keep on moving...
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  What Would JWs Do if all the GB died at once?

  by bafh in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  in another thread on the board, someone talked about their friend being a sniper in the marines and being very angry at the gb with thoughts of revenge.

  it made me wonder - what would happen to the jws if in some strange turn of events, all the gb died at the same time?

  how would they carry on if their leadership was snuffed out?

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  bafh

  In another thread on the board, someone talked about their friend being a sniper in the marines and being very angry at the GB with thoughts of revenge. It made me wonder - what would happen to the JWs if in some strange turn of events, all the GB died at the same time? How would they carry on if their leadership was snuffed out? What new "story" would they come up with?

  ~ bafh
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  This just new: Thirty-hour quota for auxiliary pioneering (letter)

  by pixel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i just wanna post post this.

  to all congregations.

  re: thirty-hour quota for auxiliary pioneering.

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  This wouldn't be such a big deal if they didn't focus on labels and status so much. Who cares what you are called? If you want to put in 30 hours a month, put in 30 hours and be done.
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  How Long has it Been since you Last Attended Meetings and What Caused...

  by flipper in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ..... you to stop attending ?

  injustices ?

  disagree with the teachings ?

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  bafh

  It has been about 4 or 5 years since I attended meetings. And I was on and off before that...And I've been back for Memorial, and funerals. I keep going to the Memorial because it keeps my mom from freaking out and I believe it is a command.

  The last straw for me was my inability to ever really fit in. There is no real place for a smart, independent single-by-choice-woman (not pining for a man) business owner who doesn't think it is more righteous to be poor than self sufficient and isn't pioneering. I couldn't take the anxiety I experienced every time I went to the hall or thought about going. Since I have stopped attending, my anxiety is gone, my relationships with people have improved and I'm much happier with myself. I simply can't endure generating the amount of guilt that comes with sitting through those "encouraging" meetings.

  bafh