Posts by LovelyEunie

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Needs help telling my mom that I dont want to be apart of her religion

by LovelyEunie in

i really don't know how to just tell my mom that i dont want to do be a jw, i mean i really shouldn't have to tell her if she'd actually pay attention to my attitude everytime she goes on a religious rant, but she chooses to stay blind and keeps making me go to that place and sit through meetings that i don't agree with on most occasions...i think that she thinks that if she keeps making me go then i'll miraculously have a change of heart and want to stay in (which will never happen).

i don't want to be disrepectful about it but since she obviously doesn't care about my feelings towards it, then why should i care if i hurt her feelings in the process, you know?

i just really don't know what to do, everytime i go to that place i feel fake because everthing they instruct us not to do, i've pretty much done it or will do it with no remorse, and i don't care either way.

LovelyEunie

@NewChapter: The only option I was given by her was basically I had to serve Jehovah in her house until it's time for me to move out. So since I'm financially ready to be on my own...I'm just stuck between a rock and a hard place since my opinons towards the religion don't matter to her, in her head I'm just going be wrong everytime unless I do things god's way.

Weird thing about it everyone, is that I kinda told her in a nice way that 'My head wasn't in it', and she told me okay I understand, but then when it came time for the KH I point blank looked her in the eyes and told her I didn't want to go, she told me that I don't get to make that decision while I'm living under her roof, and that unless I'm sick, I was going to with her and sit there like a good little JW kid (even though I'm far from being a child...). Now anyone see how messed up that was from what she originally told me???

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Needs help telling my mom that I dont want to be apart of her religion

by LovelyEunie in

i really don't know how to just tell my mom that i dont want to do be a jw, i mean i really shouldn't have to tell her if she'd actually pay attention to my attitude everytime she goes on a religious rant, but she chooses to stay blind and keeps making me go to that place and sit through meetings that i don't agree with on most occasions...i think that she thinks that if she keeps making me go then i'll miraculously have a change of heart and want to stay in (which will never happen).

i don't want to be disrepectful about it but since she obviously doesn't care about my feelings towards it, then why should i care if i hurt her feelings in the process, you know?

i just really don't know what to do, everytime i go to that place i feel fake because everthing they instruct us not to do, i've pretty much done it or will do it with no remorse, and i don't care either way.

LovelyEunie

@Sebastious: That I'm going to become apart of "The World", and we can't have that now, can we?

@looloo: I started feeling this way once I turned 14, I started thinking for myself and not hanging on every word I was told from my mom or JW's.

@VIII: Yeah I thought about doing that too once I started college next month. If it gets me out of having to go to that place then I'm all for it.

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Needs help telling my mom that I dont want to be apart of her religion

by LovelyEunie in

i really don't know how to just tell my mom that i dont want to do be a jw, i mean i really shouldn't have to tell her if she'd actually pay attention to my attitude everytime she goes on a religious rant, but she chooses to stay blind and keeps making me go to that place and sit through meetings that i don't agree with on most occasions...i think that she thinks that if she keeps making me go then i'll miraculously have a change of heart and want to stay in (which will never happen).

i don't want to be disrepectful about it but since she obviously doesn't care about my feelings towards it, then why should i care if i hurt her feelings in the process, you know?

i just really don't know what to do, everytime i go to that place i feel fake because everthing they instruct us not to do, i've pretty much done it or will do it with no remorse, and i don't care either way.

LovelyEunie

I really don't know how to just tell my mom that I dont want to do be a JW, I mean I really shouldn't have to tell her if she'd actually pay attention to my attitude everytime she goes on a religious rant, but she chooses to stay blind and keeps making me go to that place and sit through meetings that I don't agree with on most occasions...I think that she thinks that if she keeps making me go then I'll miraculously have a change of heart and want to stay in (Which will never happen). I don't want to be disrepectful about it but since she obviously doesn't care about my feelings towards it, then why should I care if I hurt her feelings in the process, you know? I just really don't know what to do, everytime I go to that place I feel fake because everthing they instruct us not to do, I've pretty much done it or will do it with no remorse, and I don't care either way. I just want my freedom to choose, and not be told this is what you're going to do because I'm doing. I mean she chose to do it, why can't I? I'm 18, an accountable age, why dont I get that choice? I swear I hate that place...

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@AussieOz; it is a shame, isn't it? They had a right to choose to be a part of the WTS, and I have a right to choose not to be a part of it. I shouldn't have to be ostrasized because i don't agree with their teachings, but then again that's how the JWs work. You're just automatically a bad person if you don't agree with their "truth". News Flash: Not everybody is agoing to agree with it, and to everyboady that chose to leave behind that life, they should just realize that that is what they chose to do and they should move on with their lives instead of making it a point to show the world how wrong we are for making that choice and how better our lives would be if we just come back to Jehovah.

Free thinking is a gift from God, not a curse. Maybe they will wise up on that fact one day.

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Is it just human nature to gossip or are JW's worse? Feelings are hurt....

by mamalove in

jw
friends

it is so strange how once you distance yourself from your kingdom hall and friends, that they find it necesary to discuss and contemplate your departure and put out all kinds of statements that simply are not true.. i am licking my wounds today because some kind of nasty things were said about me to a friend of mine who is df, from her ubber righteous sister.

it was via text, so it was there to read.

the thing i can't figure out is i have nothing to do with this woman.

LovelyEunie

They can go rot somewhere with all that crap, they don't know your life. They feel they have the right to talk about you with their holier than thou logic...I've been where you are and it makes me sick. It's not fair, nobody's talking about them so they should mind their own business...sorry but that's just one of my pet peeves, didn't mean to go off like that :)

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@Broken Promises, I'm already enrolled in college for next month in a practical work field by today's standards, and should be pretty fun for me since I like technology. I honestly can't wait to start a life from home, and if I could have I would've stayed on campus but my mom wasn't having that, I wouldn't have been able to accompany her to the KH (Ick.). I'd rather stay in a dorm room if it gets me out of going to that place since she won't just take a hint when I try to tell her I don't like it...

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@Potleg, thanks and I will :) @Tammy: Thank you~ @MrFreeze, thanks again, I will :D Thank you all again~

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Are you a fader, Df'd, DA'd, or Still In?

by brotherdan in

i thought this would be an interesting poll that would show everyone the backgrounds of all of us when we left, if we have.. for myself, i am not df'd, but i am attempting a fade.

i still go to some meetings with the wife to help with kids, but that's it.

no commenting or field service.. what about everyone else?.

LovelyEunie

I'm 18 and still in because my mom still makes me go against my will, but I've been faded since I was 16. If only I could find a way t o get out of going I would fade completely.

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

@MrFreeze I appreciate your concern, and by freedom I only meant celebrating holidays and being my true self (which is bisexual) and not have to be made to feel like the scurge of the earth because I went a minor teaching. I promise I won't do anything reckless, aside from the JW, my mom did pretty good with raising my older sister and me, you don't have to worry~

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Considered rebellious because I choose to think for myself

by LovelyEunie in

jw
friends

hi all, this is my first post.

but i was one of those kids that was born into the whole jw thing, and like a good little witness kid i did everything i was supposed to do to please my parents (mainly my mom my dad's an unbeliever).

my mom was very strict with me when it came to everything they taught, no holiday parttys at school, no sports, no worldy friends, i was only supposed to associate with other jw kids (my mom is one of those extremist jws, she says she doesn't judge, but she's a perfect example of one one of those sisters with the holier than thou attitude).

LovelyEunie

Thanks you all! @ Nice_Dream I'm glad I had the chance to make 'worldly' friends as well, they helped me stop hanging on every word that my mother reported from the KH. If I had've stayed more integrated within the WTS than I currently am ( my mom still makes me go to that wretched place, and I'm might be there in body but my spirit's surely not), I think my mental issues would be worse than they already are. My mom hates it when I lay the blame of my social anxiety and depresson on the JWs too and not just on 'worldy' people, because it's partially, actually MOSTLY, the JW's fault too.