There really is no adequate words to express how sorry I am to hear of your loss. To face a loved ones death is painful, but especially when it is someone so young, and had their whole life ahead of them. Just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
I have to agree with you when you say F**k them, you are going as you are. Please do in your brothers honor, be who you are. You do not have to play by their rules. Good luck we are here for you.
Leslie