Thanks NC. It's my 3rd bout in 2 years. I've got the same lung disease as farkel. It begins with a general viral infection which quickly turns bacterial. It won't kill me though . . . my liver cirrhosis is progressing much faster LOL.
You make a valid point regarding the believer. When I was a JW, anyone telling me that God was a figment of my imagination cut me to the heart. It is insulting to the hearer, no question. It's simply unavoidable. Attempts at soft refute are similarly seen as patronising or condescending. The debate is emotional by default . . . not by anyone's stance or style.
The greatest insult is being intimidated into silence. Both sides must bring the full weight of their argument to the table, while holding emotion in check . . . and be ready to reasonably defend or make sound by evidence and/or logic.
It does matter what people individually and collectively believe . . . it shapes the societal world in which we live.
Since I have suspended belief, beyond that which can reasonably and evidentially be demonstrated as true . . . I have felt the need to have my beliefs challenged . . . the more often and more strongly the better. If there are flaws . . . I want to know what they are. Scrutiny is sought rather than feared. It's simply because I no longer have a significant emotional investment.