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  Cruel Hearted People

  by EXMS in

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  i can't believe how people in the "organization" can be so cold hearted.. .

  last october, i got an invitation to a friends wedding where i grew up in portland, oregon.

  i now live in san diego, california.

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  Botzwana- whoa, that's cold-hearted. Sorry to hear they would do that! Wow.I hope they didn't ruin your special day. If anything, you got to see who they truly are. Two-faced sociopaths...
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  Eating Disorders and the JWs

  by the_raisin in

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  hey everybody!

  so i was wondering something... am i the only who realized that eds ran rampant throughout the witnesses?

  i remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies.

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  freedomisntfree and Nice_Dream:That's what I was thinking too, that maybe it is just one aspect of someone's life they can actually control. I remember also that, at least in my circuit and district meetings (conventions?), it was also a social standing effect.

  As in, the thinner you are, the better you are. Thin girls glaring down at chubby ones was a common occurrence, one my 'friends' loved partaking in. Comments about the girl's clothes, how fat they are, how ugly their husband/boyfriend/friends are, how they probably are invites and aren't even baptized... yeah. Cruel. Not saying you guys did that, but that's what they did. By the way, it's a Spanish Speaking disctrict meeting, maybe it's a cultural thing?
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  Need awesome suggestions!

  by the_raisin in

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  for the last four days, every morning i take donut out for her walk, i always find jw's preaching door to door across the street.

  i always cross to them, and wait with dread at what i think is inevitable: they will try to preach to me.. but it never happens.

  four days, seen three diifferent groups, nothing.

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  MartynAndrew and Quentin, I think you guys are right. Now that I think about it, I didn't approach people while I wasn't on the clock, so to speak. Makes sense!

  Yknot, thank you!!! Glad to make you smile, and yeah, I don't feel bad anymore. I got a pretty sweet life after all :).
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  Eating Disorders and the JWs

  by the_raisin in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hey everybody!

  so i was wondering something... am i the only who realized that eds ran rampant throughout the witnesses?

  i remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies.

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  Adi- awww, you're cute!!! Maybe a disordered eating, but not eating disorder?
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  Eating Disorders and the JWs

  by the_raisin in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hey everybody!

  so i was wondering something... am i the only who realized that eds ran rampant throughout the witnesses?

  i remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies.

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  saltyoldlady- whoa!!! Your daughter does indeed sound like a Superwoman! That's nice though, that she wants to adopt. And good, I thought I may be imagining things for a while there. But I'm glad to hear she's not a slave to this horrible disorder :)
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  Eating Disorders and the JWs

  by the_raisin in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hey everybody!

  so i was wondering something... am i the only who realized that eds ran rampant throughout the witnesses?

  i remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies.

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  Hey everybody! So I was wondering something... am I the only who realized that EDs ran rampant throughout the Witnesses? I remeber dreading the conventions and memorials because, as every young girl involved knew, we all covertly checked each other out and snarked on each other's bodies. I know I was guilty of this (trying to fit in was definitely my lowest point).

  So where do EDs fit in? Well, I'm not blaming the society entirely, but it defenitely was a catalyst for my anorexia and bulimia. Seeing all those super thin sisters really did me in when I realized I was too 'buxom' to completely fit in (my 'buddies' were all insect-thin... and I hardly ever saw them take a second helping of chicken like I did while at parties and gatherings :p). I'm still dealing with it... at my lowest weight, I could hardly function(and realizing that the red goopy stuff in the bowl is blood... shudder... and sad thing is, this was when I was out of the organization. The scars and comments many people made still hurt to this day, and I still battle it out with myself.

  I know of two other young women, and one male, who did in fact suffer from EDs, even if they denied denied denied. Hearing them through the thin bathroom walls was no picnic. And no, I didn't snitch on them... I didn't want to be snitched on either.

  So yeah, was it just a problem related to my community, or is this something widespread? I wonder, because as we all are aware, any sense of identity is stripped away from you, so maybe weight is something that they can control?
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  The meetings used to make me physically sick.

  by FifthOfNovember in

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  it's 9:10 sunday morning.

  i'm dressed already, and just finished rushing through my watchtower a few seconds ago.

  now i need to wait for my ride to pick me up (i couldn't drive yet).

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  Well, as a child it used to happen before going to school :p/

  I was quite familiar with the feeling by the time it came around when I began dreading meetings :(.
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  it really WAS good friday!

  by chickpea in

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  i am one final exam away from my aas in cam.

  with a guaranteed spot in the therapeutic .

  massage course next fall, required in this .

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  oooh congrats!!!! :D happy friday indeed!
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  Cruel Hearted People

  by EXMS in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i can't believe how people in the "organization" can be so cold hearted.. .

  last october, i got an invitation to a friends wedding where i grew up in portland, oregon.

  i now live in san diego, california.

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  I feel for you. Pretty sure all people who have left the 'truth' receive this cruel treatment. I don't have a satisfying answer, just my guess: they like to feel superior. I know I did when I was in, the feeling of 'power' through the 'knowledge' that only we were bestowed upon was a high like no other. Obviously, these petty people don't deserve any of your time. You sound like an awesome person, someone who doesn't deserve this treatment.

  Wanted to say also that, like you pointed out in your story, their incredulous faces make it worth going to some events they host. When they realize that one is not disease-ridden or a drug addict, or a total homeless drug-addict, STD-carrying, hateful, jealous-of-them person, their faces show it, and their actions turn quite ugly.

  I wish you the best. Again, people like this? They don't deserve you.
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  Hi I'm new.

  by sweetmochasista in

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  hello all.

  i'm not really new i registered about three years ago but never had the guts to post.

  i'm still in but want to be out..

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  Hi! Nice to hear from you! And jamiebowers is right, don't let that bully take control over you! You have our support and good thoughts :) be strong!