Posts by BeautifulMind

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Introducing Myself

by Peony in

i've finally got round to joining the site (after over 2 years lurking!

i was born into jws, pioneered for 10 years (met my husband at pioneer school).

had health issues that saw me catapulted away from 'the centre of the cong' and wow what a different place that was!

BeautifulMind

Welcome Peony! Congrats to you and your husband on walking away. I'm pretty new to this site myself. A lot of insight from different viewpoints and supportive as well.

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Angry at first

by BeautifulMind in

so when my mom died in 2007 the main thing that kept me from losing it was that i knew i would see her again in the earthly paradise that i read and sang about in the jw publications.

i honestly fully believed in it.

we were best friends and it was devastaing to lose her.

Thanks everyone. This is truly a process trying to sort everything I out. But I am taking things one day at a time. My mom was on my mind heavy when I wrote this post and hubby was asleep, so Im glad I feel comfortable enough to come here and share when I need to. The support is great and I really do appreciate all of the insight and kind words.

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Angry at first

by BeautifulMind in

so when my mom died in 2007 the main thing that kept me from losing it was that i knew i would see her again in the earthly paradise that i read and sang about in the jw publications.

i honestly fully believed in it.

we were best friends and it was devastaing to lose her.

BeautifulMind

So when my mom died in 2007 the main thing that kept me from losing it was that I knew I would see her again in the earthly paradise that I read and sang about in the jw publications. I honestly fully believed in it. We were best friends and it was devastaing to lose her.

Upon finding out ttat, I no longer believe in the earthly paradise. It really felt like a gut punch at first when I realized I would not see her again. I was so angry that I even believed such nonsense. Anyway, I'm at peace now with her death and Im just glad she is not in pain anymore. Obviously I would rather her be alive, but Im learning to adjust to the fact I won't see her again. It still sucks though.

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Any fellow lady sports fans?

by BeautifulMind in

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if so, which sports?

if you don't mind sharing!

just wanted to switch my topics up a little.

BeautifulMind

If so, which sports? If you don't mind sharing! Just wanted to switch my topics up a little. 😆. Myself - huge football fan, college and pros, NBA, track & field and all Olympic events/gymnastics also. Im trying to get into baseball, but no success so far!

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Fading and finding our REAL beliefs

by BeautifulMind in

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hey all.

i hope you are all having a good day.

just a quick update on our fade.

BeautifulMind

OnTheWayOut If you are not well-known, you only increase the chances that elders will get involved the longer you are popping up at meetings.

I suggested this to my husband a few times, to just not go back. But he is still hesitant on that. I'm just taking not going one meeting at a time and before long I'm sure he will see how much better that is for us as far as fading goes.

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Fading and finding our REAL beliefs

by BeautifulMind in

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hey all.

i hope you are all having a good day.

just a quick update on our fade.

BeautifulMind

Hey all. I hope you are all having a good day. Just a quick update on our fade. We are relatively new to our cong, a little over a year and it is very large, over 200 publishers. We were already inconsistent from the start because I just had a baby right before we switched congregations. Pretty successful so far. No one really knows us that well so no one even checks on us. My family that is still in lives in another state and my husband's family is in another city with no connections to anyone in our current cong. So they will just assume we are still going to meetings and everything. There is this one family who kind of took a liking to us, who from the beginning checked on us whenever we missed any meeting. but I guess they moved on because they have stopped texting us to see how we are doing. Even though our awakening occurred a few months ago we are very early into our official fade, only a few weeks. so we are likely to hear from someone at some point. But for now we are happy with the way things are going. That being said, my husband and I are still finding our real beliefs now that we have some space between us and the org. We pretty much agree that we believe in God, but everything else - including the Bible- is up for investigating and research to determine what is believable and what is not. So that is where we are right now. Oh, and our toddlers!! They are loving just hanging out with mommy and daddy on the nights we would usually be struggling with them at the mid-week meeting. Sundays or some days when my husband is off of work, we try to take time to go to indoor and outdoor playgrounds with a different mindset, which is to be more friendly with the other toddler parents and see who would be good for us to make new friends for us and our babies. Yeah, life is pretty sweet right now!

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Anyone in the U.S. talking about the RC in Australia!

by BeautifulMind in

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i mentioned this to my very close friend (still a believing jw) a couple of weeks ago, just to see if she had heard about it.

she asked for a link to check it out so i sent her one.

she looked into it and predictably concluded in was a smear campaign against the jws and she wasn't going to fall for what satan and the apostates were trying to do, we don't know the whole story, and the elders would never allow such a thing to happen, blah, blah, blah....anyone else in the u.s. try to bring this up to friends or family?

BeautifulMind

I mentioned this to my very close friend (still a believing jw) a couple of weeks ago, just to see if she had heard about it. She asked for a link to check it out so I sent her one. She looked into it and predictably concluded in was a smear campaign against the jws and she wasn't going to fall for what satan and the apostates were trying to do, we don't know the whole story, and the Elders would NEVER allow such a thing to happen, blah, blah, blah....Anyone else in the U.S. try to bring this up to friends or family? If so what was the outcome?

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Hello!

by BeautifulMind in

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i've been enjoying all of the discussions here for a good while now.

i found this site as i was researching things about this religion i've been in (finally after nagging curiosity and questions) but i wanted to figure things out more before coming on here and posting.

i'm glad to see that im not alone or crazy!

BeautifulMind

Problemaddict2, FayeDunaway and whoever else is curious lol. Like most, there have been a number of things over the years that I didn't agree with. It was all I knew so I just pushed those doubts away and just went along with everything..it was easier. What really got the process started for me tho were my babies. I still don't know why, but after having my second baby I started having a gut feeling that I needed to find out more about the religion I had been born into. I guess because I didn't know anything but what my parents told me. I never really thought to research it before, I just assumed my parents were right and what the org was telling me was good enough. Anyway, having my babies made me think about life differently. I started to question my own beliefs, if I really believed it was the true religion. So because of how rigid the religion is, I thought if I was going to raise my kids in it and subject them to that way of living I had to be 100% sure I was right. So I started googling everything JW. I really thought I would be reassured that I was in the true religion!! But nope..the very first thing that caught my attention was the Jw and UN association. Of course I had to validate it as authentic through days of research. That was big enough shock to my mind to open my eyes. and so I continued to research and analyze. I still am. Everything else I began to uncover was just more evidence that I was making the right decision. Anyway, I decided I could not raise my kids in this religion or continue myself. When I approached my husband he felt the same way and was relieved, shocked lol...but happy. He had been feeling this way for over 10 years with his own doubts and questions, but I didn't know. I was a super JW lol...so he thought I would go to the Elders...I probably would have smh...so yeah, that is how it started.

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The monthly broadcast as an opportunity to wake up

by paradisebeauty in

i was thinking that maybe the monthly broadcasts are a occasion for some jw's to wake up.

before those broadcasts they probably imagined that the gobgoverning y members are some very special peopleand that you see in their behavior and words that they are "chosen".

but now all jw's can see them for who they really are: average men, some full of themselves, some ridiculous, some just normal men with nothing special.

BeautifulMind

JW Broadcasting helps me to see I made the right decision....to continue the early yet needed process to fade out. a mess...