Look at the biological roots for the answer. Humans are a species where the male is larger and stronger than the females. Females select for strength and physique size. The top male has first choice of females. Primitive male dominated societies are the model for religious groups. Men try to discount it but deep down inside the male beast is a desire to attract females.
Helping people? That's part of the job. Especially helping the attractive sisters. "Helping" has strong overtones of superiority. The superior people help the inferior. Powerful males help weak males only when it comes to initiation into the male fraternity. "Come here son. I'm going to show you how to be a "spiritual" MAN like ME" The joy of being appointed to an "ELDER" is probably enhanced erections knowing you have a licence to mount.
Monogamy & its associated rules sublimate the raw search for females. But its still there if you are a careful observer.
One way to manage this is to have men compete with women for positions of power.
It's too easy to forget that we are animals.
If you are an elder you are just facilitating an archaic practice. You aren't helping anyone if you are a male in a position that requires females to be "submissive". What is submission but allowing someone to mount you.
Get off the platform. No self-respecting person would be part of that game.
Going to the hall is like watching an episode of Madmen.